Tween Years 101: As Your Tween's Identity Shifts, So Does Your Role as a Mom - 395

Tween Years 101: As Your Tween's Identity Shifts, So Does Your Role as a Mom - 395

Author: Pam Howard March 3, 2026 Duration: 11:15

The tween years don't just change your child.

They change you.

Around ages 9 to 12, your child begins the important developmental work of identity formation. They start caring more about their friends, forming stronger opinions, and creating more space between you.

This shift can feel just as big for you as it does for them, and it requires a different kind of presence from you.

The moms who come out the other side of the tween years with strong relationships aren't the ones who hold on the tightest.

They're the ones who learn how to stay present and regulated while giving their kids room to grow.

Whether you're parenting a tween now, approaching this stage, or looking back with older kids, this episode will help you understand what's really happening.

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Pam Howard brings a refreshingly practical voice to the often chaotic world of parenting with Less Drama More Mama. Drawing from her unique background as a Master Certified Life Coach, a licensed clinical social worker, and a former school counselor, she moves beyond theory to offer real, usable strategies for everyday family life. This isn't about achieving perfection; it's about replacing overwhelm with a sense of grounded confidence. Each episode feels like a conversation with a knowledgeable friend who truly gets it. Pam weaves together personal anecdotes from her own journey as a mom with anonymized case studies from her coaching practice, creating a relatable and insightful listen. You'll find specific life coaching tools and perspectives designed to transform those moments of feeling frazzled or disconnected into opportunities for calm and stronger bonds with your kids. The Less Drama More Mama podcast is a resource for any parent looking to cultivate more peace and less reactivity at home, covering topics that span child development, educational challenges, and personal growth. It’s a space where the focus shifts from simply managing behavior to understanding the underlying dynamics, empowering you to handle what comes your way with more grace and less guilt.
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