Dr. Sean Pastuch returns to share lessons from his career and his new book, Live More, Hurt Less.
Sean joins me to discuss:
• How he defines “Live More, Hurt Less”
• What that philosophy looks like in real life
• Why helping people feel heard can be such an important part of navigating pain and movement limitations
• The three identities Sean believes are relevant to meaningful change
• The “Be, Do, Have” framework
• The difference between confidence and self-esteem
• Why identity work does not need to become vague or “woo”
• What Sean means when he says, “Discipline is not the cause; it’s the effect”
• Why pain itself is not always the biggest problem
• What Sean means by, “Pain is not the problem. The problem is the compromises pain forces you to make”
• The difference between sacrifice and compromise
• Why accepting a smaller life can become normalized
• What Sean means by, “Compromise is the acceptance that living less is reasonable”
• How social permission can make quitting feel acceptable
• Sean’s own turning point with neck pain
• The role of anchors and action in changing behaviour
• How conflicting identities can interfere with progress
• Why analytical people can sometimes think their way into inaction
• Reconciling “It’s never about you and it’s always your responsibility”
• Why commitment can matter more than endlessly trying
• Why meaningful change is supposed to be difficult
• Coaching people who actually fit your philosophy and process
• Sean’s thoughts on influencers, virtue signalling, and online behaviour
• Lessons from marriage, relationships, and communication
• And much more
Follow Sean on Instagram:
@drseanpastuch
CHAPTERS
00:51 Why Sean Wrote Live More, Hurt Less
02:27 The Identity Model for Change
03:36 The Be, Do, Have Framework
06:11 Confidence Versus Self-Esteem
10:11 Why Identity Work Isn’t “Woo”
13:12 Discipline Is the Result
16:43 Pain, Restriction, and Compromise
21:18 Sacrifice Versus Compromise
24:46 When Society Gives You Permission to Quit
29:04 Sean’s Neck Pain Turning Point
31:34 Anchors, Identity, and Taking Action
36:03 Identity Conflict and Behaviour Change
38:18 The Analytical Mindset Trap
40:28 “It’s Not About You” and Personal Responsibility
44:57 Love Languages, Marriage, and Communication
49:53 Stop Trying and Start Committing
56:40 Coaching the Right Clients
58:51 Influencers and Virtue Signalling
01:03:14 Final Thoughts, Resources, and Gratitude
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