How Often Should Couples Have Sex? Why the Real Answer Isn't a Number | Love | E542

How Often Should Couples Have Sex? Why the Real Answer Isn't a Number | Love | E542

Author: Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby July 27, 2026 Duration: 51:15
How often should couples have sex? I’m going to tell you the truth: If you’re counting, something deeper is already asking for your attention. When your partner starts feeling more like a roommate, it’s easy to panic. To compare. To wonder whether your relationship is broken. But the “right number” isn’t the answer. If you’re lying next to the person you love wondering, “What happened to us?”... this episode is for you. In this conversation, I’m joined by Growing Self clinician and certified sex therapist Dori Bagi to uncover the hidden reasons desire fades, and what can actually bring it back. Listen to learn: Why sexual frequency is often a distracting symptom How spontaneous and responsive desire work differently The hidden expectations quietly creating pressure and resentment How hormones, body image, and emotional disconnection affect desire Whether attraction can return after it feels completely gone You may not have a libido problem. You may have an understanding problem. And once you can finally see what’s happening, you can start changing it. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self P.S. If this is touching something tender in your relationship, you don’t have to figure it out alone. You can connect directly with Dori for compassionate, expert support at growingself.com/dori.  Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠

You’re not alone in wanting more from your life and relationships, and that’s exactly where Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby meets you. Hosted by therapist and coach Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, this podcast feels like a thoughtful conversation with a wise friend who also happens to be an expert. Each episode delves into the real, sometimes messy work of building a better life, whether you're navigating communication in a partnership, seeking to heal from past hurt, or looking for practical ways to manage your emotions and stress. The discussions are grounded in both compassion and evidence-based strategies, moving beyond simple advice to explore the underlying patterns that shape our well-being. By listening, you’ll find actionable insights for fostering deeper emotional intimacy, overcoming the obstacles that keep you stuck, and cultivating genuine personal growth. It’s a resource for anyone ready to do the meaningful work of creating more love, health, and fulfillment in their daily existence. Tune in for a blend of guidance and genuine support that makes the journey toward success feel not only possible but understandable.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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