Hosted by Dr. John Huber (
http://www.mainstreammentalhealth.org)
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Featured guest: Toni Patillo
Topic: Preventing Elder Abuse
Website: ToniPatillo.com
Elder abuse is a topic I’ve discussed many times on webinars, phone conferences, in coaching sessions, while teaching in classrooms and when sitting with real estate clients and their family members.
Personal Story: When the market crashed in 2007, I had to move my mother to Las Vegas to live with her favorite nephew who is a very successful ophthalmologist for the past 40 years there locally. He was recently divorced and living along in a 6,000 square foot home and it was perfect timing for him as he cherished the idea that he could host his favorite aunt in his home for however long we needed. The stipulation with him was that we hire a full-time caregiver, not live-in. Over time as the economy continued to worsen, the full time caregiver we hired finally convinced my mom's Dr. to let her move into the home and operate as a LIVE-IN. From that point on she began to take ownership of the opportunity and became very controlling with my mother.
My mother was reluctant to tell anyone of what she was experiencing and it wasn’t until much later that we, the family, discovered that she was being abused. It was the doctor that contacted me to share that she felt something was not right. The doctor had been sending messages back to the family that we weren’t receiving. Finally, the doctor contacted me directly with her concerns. I immediately moved her back to LA with me and my sister. My mother was physiologically devastated and was afraid to bother us with this nightmare. She was so grateful for all that we were doing for her well being that she didn’t want to worry us.
This is a very common story through out our country. I have to say that it was just after my mother made her transition that I decided to really plug in to the 50+ market and get connected with all the networking groups so that I could stay on top of these things and potentially help my fellow agents/peers and my clients. Simply put, it affects all of us and like all other social and health problems plaguing our society, it’s much better to be proactive than reactive. With that in mind, today is all about practical things both you and your family members can do to prevent elder abuse.
GET THE WORD OUT
Education is the silver bullet in the fight to prevent elder abuse. Gather as much credible information as possible and communicate with your aging loved ones and any professionals with whom they interact. You might be asking, “why educate the professionals? Don’t they already understand?” Well it’s good for multiple reasons. First, elder abuse may not be part of their every day work concerns or training. Therefore, the professional is ill equipped to effectively recognize when it’s happening. They need and will appreciate the help. Second, it puts on notice any professional who may have had less than pure motives, that you are informed and watching.
BEWARE OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE
Alcohol and prescription drug abuse are more and more common among the elderly. Sometimes an addictive personality is the problem, but more often than not our loved ones are getting addicted to over prescribed drugs for legitimate health issues. This is so dangerous and can cause many internal issues that are hard to see until it’s too late. Also, because the drugs affect cognitive judgment, he or she becomes more vulnerable to other forms of abuse such as financial abuse.
JOIN SUPPORT GROUPS
Did you know that there are probably a dozen support groups in driving distance for aging adults and their families? I’m not kidding; they’re out there. A support group is a great place to get information and make friends who...
