241. How Self-Blame Harms Your Coaching And How to Break Free

241. How Self-Blame Harms Your Coaching And How to Break Free

Author: Lindsay Dotzlaf June 10, 2025 Duration: 43:53

Sometimes, coaches like us hold ourselves back because we think our 'inherent flaws' are unchangeable barriers to success. In today's episode, I explore why we tend to blame ourselves when things aren't working in our coaching business and how this self-blame creates a self-fulfilling prophecy that keeps us stuck.

 

You'll discover a powerful reframe question that helps break this self-blame cycle, along with specific examples from my clients who have transformed their businesses by embracing their perceived flaws as strengths. I'll also share practical ways to redirect your thinking when self-blame arises so you can embrace your authentic self in your coaching practice.

 

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/241


There’s a gap between learning the theory of coaching and actually sitting with a client in a real, messy session. Mastering Coaching Skills lives in that space. Hosted by life coach Lindsay Dotzlaf, this podcast moves beyond certifications and coursework to focus on the practical, often unspoken, abilities that define great coaches. Lindsay draws from her own experiences to discuss how to navigate tricky client conversations, build genuine confidence, and apply techniques in ways that feel authentic. You’ll hear specific stories from the coaching room-what worked, what didn’t, and the nuanced decisions behind each session. It’s for coaches who are done just studying and are ready to deepen their craft through actionable reflection. Each episode feels like a candid mentorship chat, offering tangible advice you can use immediately. If you’re building a coaching practice in the business, entrepreneurship, or personal development fields, this podcast serves as a steady resource for honing the real-world skills that truly make a difference for your clients. Tune in for a thoughtful, grounded approach to professional growth that prioritizes practical mastery over more theory.
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