E182: How I Overcame RSD and Saved My Marriage (and stopped being a yelling, angry mom)

E182: How I Overcame RSD and Saved My Marriage (and stopped being a yelling, angry mom)

Author: Patricia Sung | ADHD Coach for Moms with ADHD March 31, 2023 Duration: 35:40

What's your most shameful secret you're hiding in your closet of skeletons?  Today I'm sharing one of mine: the way I had been treating my family.

It was… not good.

Correction, it was a poop show.

This time last year, I was overwhelmed by life and I had lost my joy.

I was secretly an angry mom who yelled every time I got frustrated. 

I was a closet doom spiral-er who was ready to fight at every comment from my husband. 

Because of it, lies like "you're a terrible mother" and "my partner is always criticizing me" played on repeat 24/7 in my mind. = Level 10 B.S.

The shame layered on thick and the denial of how bad it had gotten was no longer ignorable.

Come on my journey of the last 12 months where I went from full-blown RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) plus trauma response disaster zone to my current place of calm, forgiveness, and grace when I mess up. Cuz I'm still human. 

My hope is that if this is you, too, you'll join me in Lighthouse, my group coaching program that starts next month. 

Because you and your family are worth it.

Full Stop.

Links mentioned in this episode:

• Lighthouse Group Coaching for Emotional Regulation enrollment ends April 4th or when all 8 spots are filled: www.patriciasung.com/time-management-mastery-for-adhd-moms#lighthouse

• Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms also closes April 4th: bit.ly/adhdframework

To read the transcript, links, and view the show notes visit the Motherhood in ADHD Blog 


Ever feel like you're running a marathon with no finish line in sight, while everyone else seems to be on a leisurely stroll? That mental clutter, the constant search for your keys, the guilt over forgotten appointments-it's not a personal failing. It's often the lived experience of motherhood when you're also navigating adult ADHD. Motherhood in ADHD is a space created specifically for that reality. Hosted by Patricia Sung, an ADHD coach who gets it because she lives it, this podcast digs into the intersection of a neurodivergent brain and the demands of raising a family. You'll find conversations that move beyond simple tips, offering brain-based science and practical strategies tailored for moms whose minds work differently. Episodes explore how to structure your days in a way that works with your ADHD, not against it, and rethink parenting approaches to reduce overwhelm for both you and your kids. It’s about education that leads to self-compassion, replacing shame with understanding. Tune in for honest talk about productivity that actually sticks, managing mental health, and building systems that acknowledge your unique wiring. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a companion for redefining what success looks like in your home and in your mind, helping you move from barely coping to truly thriving.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHD
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