E202: The Same Fight Again: How to Improve Your Romantic Relationship When it's Impacted by ADHD with Melissa Orlov

E202: The Same Fight Again: How to Improve Your Romantic Relationship When it's Impacted by ADHD with Melissa Orlov

Author: Patricia Sung | ADHD Coach for Moms with ADHD August 17, 2023 Duration: 45:42

"My partner says I'm using my ADHD as an excuse. They're not really understanding ADHD at all or how it affects me!" 

You shared your relationship struggles and you're not the only one!

Today's guest, Melissa Orlov, answers YOUR questions from my free Facebook group. We discuss ADHD as an excuse, partners who don't understand ADHD, communication obstacles between ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners. 

We also dive into guilt, shame, trust, coping with RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) when it feels like your partner is constantly criticizing you, how all of this affects intimacy, and life after divorce.

Melissa is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com and works with couples impacted by ADHD.  There's hope for your relationship, too, mama. 

Let's dive into your questions!

Links mentioned in this episode :

Melissa's recent read: Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible

Melissa's Blog post:  https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/maybe-just-maybe-adhd-excuse-act-heartless-jerk

How to connect with Melissa: 

Her website: http://www.ADHDmarriage.com

Her instagram:  @adhd_marriage

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: 

https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-202-Same-Fight-Again-how-to-Improve-Romantic-Relationship-when-Impacted-by-ADHD-with-Melissa Orlov

 Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm


Ever feel like you're running a marathon with no finish line in sight, while everyone else seems to be on a leisurely stroll? That mental clutter, the constant search for your keys, the guilt over forgotten appointments-it's not a personal failing. It's often the lived experience of motherhood when you're also navigating adult ADHD. Motherhood in ADHD is a space created specifically for that reality. Hosted by Patricia Sung, an ADHD coach who gets it because she lives it, this podcast digs into the intersection of a neurodivergent brain and the demands of raising a family. You'll find conversations that move beyond simple tips, offering brain-based science and practical strategies tailored for moms whose minds work differently. Episodes explore how to structure your days in a way that works with your ADHD, not against it, and rethink parenting approaches to reduce overwhelm for both you and your kids. It’s about education that leads to self-compassion, replacing shame with understanding. Tune in for honest talk about productivity that actually sticks, managing mental health, and building systems that acknowledge your unique wiring. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a companion for redefining what success looks like in your home and in your mind, helping you move from barely coping to truly thriving.
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