E202: The Same Fight Again: How to Improve Your Romantic Relationship When it's Impacted by ADHD with Melissa Orlov

E202: The Same Fight Again: How to Improve Your Romantic Relationship When it's Impacted by ADHD with Melissa Orlov

Author: Patricia Sung | ADHD Coach for Moms with ADHD August 17, 2023 Duration: 45:42

"My partner says I'm using my ADHD as an excuse. They're not really understanding ADHD at all or how it affects me!" 

You shared your relationship struggles and you're not the only one!

Today's guest, Melissa Orlov, answers YOUR questions from my free Facebook group. We discuss ADHD as an excuse, partners who don't understand ADHD, communication obstacles between ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners. 

We also dive into guilt, shame, trust, coping with RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) when it feels like your partner is constantly criticizing you, how all of this affects intimacy, and life after divorce.

Melissa is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com and works with couples impacted by ADHD.  There's hope for your relationship, too, mama. 

Let's dive into your questions!

Links mentioned in this episode :

Melissa's recent read: Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible

Melissa's Blog post:  https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/maybe-just-maybe-adhd-excuse-act-heartless-jerk

How to connect with Melissa: 

Her website: http://www.ADHDmarriage.com

Her instagram:  @adhd_marriage

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: 

https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-202-Same-Fight-Again-how-to-Improve-Romantic-Relationship-when-Impacted-by-ADHD-with-Melissa Orlov

 Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm


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