E244: Prioritizing Intimate Moments for ADHD Couples with Dr. Ari Tuckman

E244: Prioritizing Intimate Moments for ADHD Couples with Dr. Ari Tuckman

Author: Patricia Sung | ADHD Coach for Moms with ADHD October 17, 2024 Duration: 56:44

***Note that today's episode is not for little ears, so grab your headphones or listen away from the kids.

Intimacy is more than what happens in the bedroom. When things are not going well in the bedroom, it shows up in everyday life too. 

Relationship problems fester when ignored, seeping into the way you and your partner prioritize each other and communicate in your relationship. Throw ADHD in the mix and you've got advanced relationship needs, too.

For ADHD Awareness Month, we're talking to a new ADHD guest expert every week. 

Today's guest is Ari Tuckman, PsyD, a psychologist, author, international presenter and ADHD thought leader. He has been widely quoted in media and has appeared on countless podcasts. He is the conference committee co-chair CHADD. He is the author of "ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship" 

In this episode, Dr. Tuckman and I discuss frequent struggles in ADHD relationships, including awkward conversations about intimacy, and where you might struggle with communication. We talk about real life solutions and suggestions on how to stay connected and prioritize your relationship. 

You're certainly not alone in these relationship struggles. 

Let's jump into a much-needed conversation about how to keep your romantic partnership strong in the trying stages of life and be present in the little moments that matter, so that you can both work toward a lasting and fulfilling relationship for both partners.

Find Dr. Tuckman here:

Website:  adultADHDbook.com

 

Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-244-prioritizing-intimate-moments-adhd-couples-communication-relationships-dr-ari-tuckman

 

It can feel super intimidating to show up to a party where you don't know anyone. Well, I don't want that fear to keep you from finding your people. 

I want to make this super low risk for you to come, try it out, and get a sneak peek before you join our ADHD mom community. 

You're invited to the next Successful Mama Meetup Open House!

Join us on Zoom on November 6th to body double for the first 30 minutes, then hangout and meet the other moms in the community for the second half. (Hint hint, we're pretty amazing IMHO.)

No charge, no pressure. Just come hang out!

Let me know you wanna come right here and I'll send you the Zoom link. 

And since it's on Zoom, everyone can come no matter where you live. Self-diagnosis and ADHD-curious moms welcome. 

It's time to hang out with other moms who get you and make you feel like you're at home. So come in your comfy clothes and let's hang out! See you soon!


Ever feel like you're running a marathon with no finish line in sight, while everyone else seems to be on a leisurely stroll? That mental clutter, the constant search for your keys, the guilt over forgotten appointments-it's not a personal failing. It's often the lived experience of motherhood when you're also navigating adult ADHD. Motherhood in ADHD is a space created specifically for that reality. Hosted by Patricia Sung, an ADHD coach who gets it because she lives it, this podcast digs into the intersection of a neurodivergent brain and the demands of raising a family. You'll find conversations that move beyond simple tips, offering brain-based science and practical strategies tailored for moms whose minds work differently. Episodes explore how to structure your days in a way that works with your ADHD, not against it, and rethink parenting approaches to reduce overwhelm for both you and your kids. It’s about education that leads to self-compassion, replacing shame with understanding. Tune in for honest talk about productivity that actually sticks, managing mental health, and building systems that acknowledge your unique wiring. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a companion for redefining what success looks like in your home and in your mind, helping you move from barely coping to truly thriving.
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