The Cost of Being a “Good Girl”

The Cost of Being a “Good Girl”

Author: Dear Media July 21, 2025 Duration: 59:24
In today’s episode, Dominique sits down with award-winning researcher and best-selling author Dr. Chelle McQuaid, whose work dives deep into how women can break free from lifelong patterns of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and silencing themselves to keep others comfortable. From early childhood conditioning to the cultural expectations still placed on women today, Dr. Chelle shares surprising insights from her global research, including the role estrogen plays in helping us shed the "good girl" persona and step into a more authentic, empowered self. In this episode, Dominique and Dr. Chelle discuss:How “good girl” conditioning begins in childhood and gets reinforced in adulthoodThe connection between menopause and breaking free from self-silencing behaviorsWhy women often struggle with setting boundaries and asking for what they needThe three biggest ways the “good girl” mindset shows up: perfectionism, people-pleasing, and emotional suppressionHow self-compassion, secure self-attachment, and self-leadership can change everythingWhy “not yet” can be the most powerful phrase for growthA calming somatic practice (the “butterfly hug”) to ground yourself in moments of fear or self-doubt For more on Angela:Listen to her podcast, The Good Girl Gamechangers PodcastVisit her website: https://shop.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/  Thanks to my Sponsors:Visit Carawayhome.com/flourishing or use code flourishing at checkout to take an additional 10% off your next purchase.Use code DOMINIQUE at monarchmoney.com in your browser for half off your first year. That’s 50% off your first year at monarchmoney.com with code DOMINIQUE. Keep in Touch:Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://dominiquesachse.tv/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://dominiquesachse.tv/book/Insta: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dominiquesachse/Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DominiqueSachse/TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@dominiquesachse?lang=enYouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@dominiquesachsetv Have a question for Dominique? Submit it here for a chance to have it answered on the show! https://forms.gle/MpTeWN1oKN8t18pm6  Interested in being featured as a guest? Please email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠courtney@dominiquesachse.tv⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  We want to make the podcast even better. Help us learn how we can: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/2EcYbu4⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Navigating life after fifty can feel like uncharted territory, but it’s also a space brimming with potential for renewal and vibrant growth. That’s the heart of Over 50 & Flourishing with Dominique Sachse. Drawing from her own journey and a career built on curiosity-first in television news and later through creating a deeply personal YouTube community-Dominique facilitates honest conversations that move far beyond the typical narratives about aging. This podcast, from Dear Media, delves into the multifaceted reality of this life chapter, exploring topics from physical health and fitness to cultural shifts, continuous education, and profound self-improvement. Listeners will hear interviews and reflections that tackle the real questions women are asking about purpose, wellness, relationships, and identity. It’s a resource for anyone ready to redefine what it means to flourish, offering practical wisdom and genuine camaraderie. Each episode aims to provide both insight and inspiration, proving that the years after fifty are not an ending, but a compelling new beginning rich with opportunity for the woman who is wise, healthy, and wonderfully aware of her own strength. Tune in for a dialogue that honors experience while eagerly exploring what comes next.
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