I love you Dad

I love you Dad

Author: People Soup November 13, 2025 Duration: 9:35

Hi there and a very warm welcome to Season 6 Episode 35 of People Soup, it's Ross McIntosh here.

P-Soupers – It’s another cup a soup this week – one where I share some sad news, reflections and a poem that carries personal meaning for me.

This episode is personal – and I’m reflecting on themes of death and grieving – topics that, in my experience, we’re not always the best at talking about, particularly in the workplace – and if now is not the right time for you to be listening – please do consider skipping this episode. Also I wanted to highlight the brilliant ACT based resource at www.mygriefmyway.co.uk. I am actively dipping into the website several times a week at the moment. I was fortunate enough to interview the two researchers, Ann Finucane and David Gillanders who led the development of this resource recently and you’ll find a link to those episodes in the show notes. Please pause and consider, is there anyone you know who might find mygriefmyway.co.uk useful.

I have terribly Sad news P Soupers – my dear Dad, known to many of you as Big G – died on Wednesday 22 October. He was peaceful at the end and I’m grateful that I got to spend the previous week with him in Northumberland. In that week, alongside the pain of impending grief, there were some beautiful moments.

For those of you who are new to People Soup - welcome - it's great to have you here - I aim to provide you with ingredients for a better work life from behavioural science and beyond. For those of you who are regular P Soupers - thanks for tuning in - we love it that you're part of our community.

There is a transcript for each episode. There is a caveat - this transcript is largely generated by Artificial Intelligence, I have corrected many errors but I won't have captured them all! You can also find the shownotes by clicking on notes then keep scrolling for all the useful links.


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