Let it go - with Dr Ben Askew

Let it go - with Dr Ben Askew

Author: People Soup January 14, 2026 Duration: 25:59

Hi there and a very warm welcome to Season 6 Episode 39 of People Soup, it's Ross McIntosh here.

It's the second part of our festive special (better late than never!) with Dr Ben Askew we continue our exploration of behaviour change using the film Frozen. In this episode, we focus particularly on the song 'Let It Go.' We discuss Elsa's use of isolation as a maladaptive coping strategy, contrasting it with her eventual journey towards psychological flexibility and authentic self-expression. The conversation also touches on broader themes of love and vulnerability, and how these elements connect to leadership and personal growth. I share a potentially parallel story from his coaching experience, highlighting similar challenges faced by a senior leader in a global organization. The episode underscores the nuances of away moves, the importance of flexibility, and the deep, thoughtful storytelling behind Disney movies.

For those of you who are new to People Soup - welcome - it's great to have you here - I aim to provide you with ingredients for a better work life from behavioural science and beyond. For those of you who are regular P Soupers - thanks for tuning in - we love it that you're part of our community.


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