Quick Spoon: Locked out of the controls

Quick Spoon: Locked out of the controls

Author: People Soup May 7, 2026 Duration: 1:30

Why do we sometimes react in ways that don’t feel like us?

Why do we say things we later regret, shut down under pressure, or act against our values?

In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we explore a powerful idea:

Sometimes, in difficult moments…

“We’re locked out of the controls.”

And if that’s true…

Beating ourselves up probably isn’t the answer.

Awareness might be.

A practical reflection on self-compassion, threat responses, and how to choose a response that’s guided by your values—not just your emotions.

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Ever wonder why we do the things we do, especially at work or when trying to lead others? People Soup digs into that question, but it doesn’t stop at theory. Each episode is built on a foundation of behavioural science, which means you’ll get more than just interesting stories-you’ll get a clearer understanding of the human ingredients that make up our daily interactions. The conversations here feel real and unscripted, often touching on the messy, rewarding, and sometimes frustrating experience of simply being human. You’ll find that this podcast operates at the intersection of our professional ambitions and our personal well-being, exploring how they influence each other in ways we might not immediately see. It’s for anyone who has left a meeting baffled by a colleague’s reaction, struggled to motivate a team, or just wanted to navigate their own goals with a bit more clarity and less friction. The ideas discussed are deliberately practical, designed to be used almost immediately, whether you’re looking to improve a process, a relationship, or your own mindset. Tune in for a blend of thoughtful analysis and actionable insight that aims to make the complex recipe of human behaviour a little easier to understand and work with.
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