Quick Spoon: Pain is part of being human

Quick Spoon: Pain is part of being human

Author: Ross McIntosh May 11, 2026 Duration: 1:34

What if the goal was never to become stress-free?

Or anxiety-free.

Or grief-free.

In this Quick Spoon from my conversation with Dr Eric Goodman, we challenge a myth that many of us still buy into:

That difficult emotions are somehow a sign that something’s gone wrong.

Eric offers a different perspective:

Painful emotions aren’t a design flaw.

They’re part of being human.

And the real skill may not be fighting what we feel…but learning how to notice it with a little more awareness—and a little more compassion.

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