Why good leaders go off track - A People Soup special #1

Why good leaders go off track - A People Soup special #1

Author: People Soup June 1, 2026 Duration: 13:41

Why do good people do things they later regret?

It's a question that's fascinated me for years.

Before I became a coach, studied organisational psychology, or discovered Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), I spent years in HR leadership. One of my roles was leading the Conduct and Discipline Team in a large government department in the UK Civil Service. In that job I became increasingly curious about what really drives human behaviour.

In this special solo episode, I share my working hypothesis about leadership:

Under pressure, leaders often default to behaviours designed to reduce discomfort rather than create impact.

I explore six common patterns of psychologically inflexible leadership and introduce my leadership framework, built around three core skills topped and tailed by the Pause and the Review Loop:

  • Pause
  • Awareness
  • Authentic Action
  • Adaptability
  • and the Review Loop.

Along the way, I share stories from my own leadership journey, including:

  • What I learned from conduct and discipline cases
  • A memorable disagreement with a tech startup founder about the value of pausing
  • The conversation with my husband that changed what I paid attention to
  • Lessons from coaching senior leaders through moments of challenge and transition
  • Why authenticity became such an important part of my leadership philosophy

This episode is both a reflection on leadership and an invitation to consider what might be running you when pressure shows up.

In this episode

  • Why leaders are not exempt from being human
  • Six common ways leaders can drift off course
  • Why the pause is a leadership superpower
  • The importance of awareness and noticing what matters
  • Values, authenticity and courageous action
  • Adapting without abandoning yourself
  • Why reflection turns experience into wisdom
  • What ACT has taught me about leadership and human behaviour

Key quote

"Pressure doesn't reveal who we are. Pressure reveals what's running us."

Reflection question

When pressure rises, what patterns show up most often for you?

Resources

You can find an illustration of my ACT-based Leadership Framework in the show notes.

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Ever wonder why we do the things we do, especially at work or when trying to lead others? People Soup digs into that question, but it doesn’t stop at theory. Each episode is built on a foundation of behavioural science, which means you’ll get more than just interesting stories-you’ll get a clearer understanding of the human ingredients that make up our daily interactions. The conversations here feel real and unscripted, often touching on the messy, rewarding, and sometimes frustrating experience of simply being human. You’ll find that this podcast operates at the intersection of our professional ambitions and our personal well-being, exploring how they influence each other in ways we might not immediately see. It’s for anyone who has left a meeting baffled by a colleague’s reaction, struggled to motivate a team, or just wanted to navigate their own goals with a bit more clarity and less friction. The ideas discussed are deliberately practical, designed to be used almost immediately, whether you’re looking to improve a process, a relationship, or your own mindset. Tune in for a blend of thoughtful analysis and actionable insight that aims to make the complex recipe of human behaviour a little easier to understand and work with.
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