Self Improvement: Progress Replaced with Performance?

Self Improvement: Progress Replaced with Performance?

Author: Gareth King April 1, 2026 Duration: 39:41

The internet often turns self-improvement into a spectator sport, replacing process with performance, and pushing us to consume playbooks rather than build habits. By looking to algorithms for every answer, have we not only outsourced the experience, but forced ourselves into one-size-fits-all solutions as well?

Helping us examine how the digital world affects how we try to become better versions of ourselves is Justin Leff, a Canadian behavioural coach who helps people with discipline, wellness and self-understanding.

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In this episode, we explore how the internet has transformed self-improvement, highlighting the impact of algorithms, social media, and AI on our goals, motivation, and identity.

We also look at how digital environments influence our perceptions of success, and the importance of community and self-awareness.

00:00 The Impact of the Internet on Self-Improvement

03:12 Globalisation of Ideas and Goals

06:07 The Dangers of Social Comparison

09:08 The Role of Role Models in the Digital Age

12:03 Chasing Status vs. Genuine Self-Improvement

15:12 The Journey of Self-Discovery

18:05 The Process Over Quick Fixes

21:14 The Impact of Digital Overload on Motivation

24:08 Navigating Decision Fatigue in a World of Options

28:03 The Future of Self-Improvement Without Social Media

30:41 AI's Role in Tailored Self-Improvement

35:08 Finding Authentic Peer Support in Self-Improvement

37:13 The Importance of Community in Personal Growth


It’s a question that nags at anyone who’s ever felt a pang of nostalgia or a wave of digital fatigue: are we better or worse off because of our constant connection? Hosted by Gareth King, Ruined By The Internet? digs into that uneasy feeling, moving beyond simple headlines to explore how our online world actively moulds society, culture, and the texture of daily life. This isn’t about reviewing apps or gadgets; it’s about treating the digital realm as the pervasive environment it has become. Each episode features thoughtful conversations with leading thinkers and researchers from around the world, dissecting the real evidence behind our shared anxieties and hopes. You’ll hear nuanced discussions that ask whether the casualties we often blame on technology are inevitable, or if we’re simply misdiagnosing deeper societal shifts. This podcast provides a space for considered reflection, offering listeners a clearer lens through which to view their own place in a world that is, for better or worse, thoroughly wired.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 26

Ruined By The Internet? - Uncovering the human cost of our digital world
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