Pursuing Pain-Free Intimacy

Pursuing Pain-Free Intimacy

Author: Bonny Burns, J Parker, and Chris Taylor October 2, 2025 Duration: 41:37

Jess Seitz, occupational therapist and vaginismus recovery specialist, of Pain-Free Intimacy joins us to talk about how wives can address sexual pain they currently have or may have in the future.

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From the Bible

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4

I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. Psalm 139:14 (HCSB)

I remain confident of this:
  I will see the goodness of the Lord
  in the land of the living.
Psalm 27:13
(the verse J couldn't think of in the moment!)

"I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—
  the great locust and the young locust,
  the other locusts and the locust swarm—
my great army that I sent among you.
You will have plenty to eat, until you are full,
  and you will praise the name of the Lord your God,
  who has worked wonders for you;
never again will my people be shamed."
Joel 2:25–26

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31–32

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Marriage within the Christian faith encompasses the whole person-body, spirit, and mind. Sex Chat for Christian Wives exists in that sometimes tricky, always sacred intersection. Hosted by Bonny Burns, J Parker, and Chris Taylor, this is a conversation among friends who believe that sexual intimacy is a profound gift meant to be explored and enjoyed within a covenant marriage. Each episode feels like pulling up a chair to a candid kitchen-table talk, where laughter and grace are always welcome. You’ll hear them draw from scripture to frame a positive, theology-based view of sex, while also diving into remarkably practical advice for everyday married life. The discussions are grounded, addressing real questions and challenges with honesty and without shame. This podcast moves beyond vague principles to offer tangible tips and perspectives that can transform a couple's intimate connection. It’s a unique space where faith, health, and sexuality are woven together, affirming that spiritual and physical intimacy are beautifully and intentionally linked. Tune in for thoughtful, compassionate dialogue that empowers wives to embrace this dimension of their relationship with freedom and joy.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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Duration: 2:04
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