How Stella Got Her Groove Back with Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons: Rom-Com Vom

How Stella Got Her Groove Back with Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons: Rom-Com Vom

Author: Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert January 29, 2025 Duration: 32:32

What can 1998's How Stella Got Her Groove Back teach us about love, age gaps, and black romance? DB and beloved return guest Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons dive into the film's portrayal of intimacy, sisterhood, and the complexities of age-gap relationships. Plus: cringy accents, objectifying Taye Diggs, and the long-term cultural impact of this iconic rom-com.

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Dr. Candice Nicole is an award-winning psychologist and associate professor at Emory University. She is author of Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation, debuting February 4. She can be found on IG and Threads, or at www.drcandicenicole.com.

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