How Stella Got Her Groove Back with Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons: Rom-Com Vom

How Stella Got Her Groove Back with Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons: Rom-Com Vom

Author: Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert January 29, 2025 Duration: 32:32

What can 1998's How Stella Got Her Groove Back teach us about love, age gaps, and black romance? DB and beloved return guest Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons dive into the film's portrayal of intimacy, sisterhood, and the complexities of age-gap relationships. Plus: cringy accents, objectifying Taye Diggs, and the long-term cultural impact of this iconic rom-com.

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Dr. Candice Nicole is an award-winning psychologist and associate professor at Emory University. She is author of Good Sex: Stories, Science, and Strategies for Sexual Liberation, debuting February 4. She can be found on IG and Threads, or at www.drcandicenicole.com.

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You have questions about pleasure, intimacy, and your own body that feel too complex or awkward to ask out loud. Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education is the space where those questions are not only welcomed but explored with depth and clarity. Hosted by Danielle Bezalel (DB), a sex educator with a Masters in Public Health, this podcast moves beyond basic biology to address the real, often unspoken, aspects of our sexual lives. Each episode is built on a foundation of credible research and compassionate insight, dismantling the myths and shame that so often accompany these topics. You’ll hear DB in conversation with leading experts, therapists, and researchers, translating their knowledge into practical advice you can actually use. Whether it’s navigating communication with a partner, understanding your own desires more fully, or simply seeking a more confident and joyful connection to your sexuality, this series provides a trustworthy guide. The tone is direct, inclusive, and refreshingly free of judgment, meeting you exactly where you are in your personal journey. Tune in for a re-education that focuses not on what’s wrong, but on what’s possible for a more fulfilling and informed intimate life.
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