Why do some early experiences turn into lifelong fetishes?

Why do some early experiences turn into lifelong fetishes?

Author: Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert February 18, 2026 Duration: 13:23

Ever look back on a childhood memory and realize it maybe awakened something in you that you're just now finding... very, very interesting? One of our incredible (and very brave, we LOVE you for this) listeners sent in a question about being in this predicament. Do childhood experiences impact our sexual interests, kinks, and/or fetishes? Why? What's going on psychologically? And does anyone have some ground beef? Asking for... reasons.

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