SWM 115 – Strapons, Exes and Foreskins

Strapons, Exes and Foreskins. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

Well, it’s November, so it's time to get into the questions we received in October from our anonymous Have A Question page. As these are anonymous questions, all we get is what they submit. I post them in our supporters’ forum, we discuss them, and then I write up my responses on a blog post and release them as a podcast episode.

Before we get into the questions, though, we’re getting closer to Christmas, and this time of year is when I put our Intimacy Advent Calendar up for sale again. So, if you’re looking for a gift for your spouse, then check it out. It comes in three flavours - the romantic set, which has a bunch of non-sexual activities; the sexy set, which includes all the romantic cards and a bunch of sexual ones; and the black-label set, which has all the others, plus many more adventurous choices. So, whatever your dynamic, there’s something for you that I think your spouse will appreciate.

And now, let’s get on to the questions.

I have a fantasy about using a strap-on on my wife. The idea is I could go for more time than with my real penis and maybe stimulate her to an orgasm. Also, it seems fun to try a bigger than real-life one and see if it feels better for her. I love getting her to orgasm; it is the best ever! I'm pretty sure my wife would think that a little strange. I have floated the idea before and got that vibe. Sometimes, my ideals of what sounds sexy aren't so sexy in reality. What do I do with my ideas, or how can I find the sexy ideas my wife is interested in? She tends to just want simple and fast. If I ask her about fantasies or ideas she'd like, it's mostly nothing. I feel like I have a lot of creativity for sex, but need to tune how I use it better, but can't find what she likes, and she doesn't seem to know either.

There are a few things I want to hit with this question.