SWM 125 – Rethinking “Duty Sex”

SWM 125 – Rethinking “Duty Sex”

Author: Jay Dee - Marriage Educator March 22, 2024 Duration: 15:06

SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

I've had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called "duty sex" or "pity sex." For those who don't know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to sex, not because they desire it themselves, but because their spouse does. They might have sex for many reasons, including feeling obligated, pressured, guilty, to keep the peace or to "get them off their back."

The problem is that these negative reasons are often the only ones considered, and so any situation in which one spouse wants sex and the other agrees to it without having an internal desire of their own is seen as unfavourable.

But there are some excellent reasons to have what's commonly considered "duty sex" or "pity sex," and often, the conflicts I see in marriages are not that it's because of those reasons I mentioned above but instead about something positive and loving.

So, in this podcast episode, we're going to talk about reframing duty sex in those situations.

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Marriage brings together two whole people, each with their own history, beliefs, and questions, especially when it comes to physical intimacy. Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective is a space where those often unspoken questions find thoughtful, practical answers. Hosted by Jay Dee, a Marriage Educator, these conversations move beyond simplistic advice to explore the real, sometimes messy, intersection of faith, love, and physical connection. You’ll hear discussions that treat sexuality as a integral part of a holistic marriage, touching on spiritual, emotional, and even physical health. This podcast acknowledges the unique challenges and profound beauty of building a sexually fulfilling life within a committed, covenantal relationship. It’s not about quick fixes, but about fostering deeper understanding and connection. Episodes delve into topics ranging from communication and desire to navigating differences and healing, all through a lens that values both biblical wisdom and compassionate realism. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this resource offers a grounded, hopeful perspective for couples seeking to nurture this vital aspect of their life together. Tune in for honest dialogue that aims to strengthen marriages from the inside out.
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