SWM 117 – Why do I want sex when I’m sick?

SWM 117 – Why do I want sex when I’m sick?

Author: Jay Dee - Marriage Educator December 15, 2023 Duration: 0:00

SWM 117 - Why do I want sex when I'm sick? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season.  So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7.  Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got it worse than her.  She complained about being sick but still working out multiple times daily (playing Supernatural on the VR - in case any others are fans).  For me, I was barely making it through my desk job and not making it some days.

But at night, we’d crawl into bed, and I was still interested in sex, I think more than usual even - her, not at all.  That made me wonder - what is it about being sick that makes me want sex more?

Unfortunately, my head was too fuzzy to research or write an article; here we are, a week later, and I’m ready to tackle it.  So, let’s dig into being sick and sex and why some may want sex when they’re sick, and even more so when they’re sick.

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Marriage brings together two whole people, each with their own history, beliefs, and questions, especially when it comes to physical intimacy. Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective is a space where those often unspoken questions find thoughtful, practical answers. Hosted by Jay Dee, a Marriage Educator, these conversations move beyond simplistic advice to explore the real, sometimes messy, intersection of faith, love, and physical connection. You’ll hear discussions that treat sexuality as a integral part of a holistic marriage, touching on spiritual, emotional, and even physical health. This podcast acknowledges the unique challenges and profound beauty of building a sexually fulfilling life within a committed, covenantal relationship. It’s not about quick fixes, but about fostering deeper understanding and connection. Episodes delve into topics ranging from communication and desire to navigating differences and healing, all through a lens that values both biblical wisdom and compassionate realism. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this resource offers a grounded, hopeful perspective for couples seeking to nurture this vital aspect of their life together. Tune in for honest dialogue that aims to strengthen marriages from the inside out.
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