SWM 147 – How do you know if you’re sexually compatible

SWM 147 - How do you know if you're sexually compatible? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

The most common argument I hear for premarital sex is, "You need to know if you're sexually compatible before getting married. Otherwise, you might end up stuck in a sexless, unfulfilling relationship."

And it sounds like sound reasoning.  We test-drive cars before buying them.  We have probation periods for people we hire at work.  We sample foods before purchasing them.  Shouldn't sex, which is one of the most intimate parts of marriage, be tested beforehand to make sure you're a good match?

It's a compelling argument that convinces many people to abandon their principles.  It makes you question your morality.  It promises both immediate and long-term gratification.

However, it's based on a flawed premise.

Links in the episode:

• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (Course)
• The Art of Edging (eBook)
• Legalistic vs Loving Approach to Marriage (podcast)
• National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study
• Let's talk about sex... and ADHD
• Determinants of female sexual orgasms
• Should Couples Live Together Before Marriage?
• Cohabitation Experience and Cohabitation's Association With Marital Dissolution
• The Pre-engagement Cohabitation Effect: A Replication and Extension of Previous Findings

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