EP438 - Sex and Conflict: The 4-Minute Exercise

EP438 - Sex and Conflict: The 4-Minute Exercise

Author: Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D, Psychology of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education May 13, 2025 Duration: 50:33

Welcome to Episode 438 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who speak to me about emotional regulation, co-regulation, and their transformative journey in creating a stronger sexual connection through emotional attunement.


In this heartfelt episode, Glenn and Phyllis share their personal story of early sexual struggles and emotional disconnect in their marriage, which eventually led them on a lifelong quest for answers. Married since 1982, they recount decades of feeling lost and misunderstood, highlighting how a lack of emotional education contributed to sexual dissatisfaction and relational distance.


Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes- a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute exercise. 


In this episode, you will hear:


·      The Hills’ Personal Journey

·      Why Emotional Education is Critical for a Healthy Sex Life

·      The Impact of Emotional Wounding on Physical Intimacy

·      How Emotional Dysregulation Disrupts Sexual Desire and Connection

·      The “Four-Minute Tool” for Tuning Into Core Emotions

·      Co-Regulation and Building Emotional Safety With Your Partner

·      The Power of Naming Emotions Like Sadness, Hurt, and Joy

·      How Sexual Banter Can Foster Intimacy Outside the Bedroom

·      Practical Advice for Communicating Emotional Overwhelm

 

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Curiosity about human sexuality is universal, yet finding grounded, evidence-based conversations can be surprisingly difficult. That’s where Sexology comes in. Hosted by clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Nazanin Moali, this weekly series moves beyond sensationalism and stigma to bring you thoughtful dialogues with leading experts, researchers, and therapists. Each episode delves into the nuanced psychology of sex, intimacy, and relationships, translating complex findings into relatable insights. You’ll hear conversations that address the questions many ponder but hesitate to voice, covering everything from desire and communication to the science of pleasure and emotional connection. Dr. Moali’s background in both couple therapy and sex education ensures these discussions are both academically rigorous and deeply practical. Rather than offering quick fixes, this podcast provides a compassionate space to understand the multifaceted nature of our sexual selves. Tuning in feels like gaining access to a candid, confidential forum where nothing is off-limits and everything is examined with respect and intellectual curiosity. For anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of personal or relational dynamics, Sexology offers a trusted, enlightening resource that demystifies the complexities of human sexuality through a scientific and therapeutic lens.
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