Episode 508: My company is an unethical spammer and my coworkers take so much sick time

Episode 508: My company is an unethical spammer and my coworkers take so much sick time

Author: Jamison Dance and Dave Smith April 13, 2026 Duration: 32:57

In this episode, Dave and Jamison answer these questions:

  1. How can I get our company to follow the law and stop sending SPAM without being regarded as negative?

    We’re sending out emails that don’t comply with CAN-SPAM, and I think we should comply due to the risks, but I don’t want to risk any blowback! People want the emails to look more ‘human’ sent, and putting your mailing address at the end of an email is not very human, so we’re not doing that… It’s a medium startup (500 people), but I’m close enough to the marketing work that they might know it was me! Should I send an email to our general consul? How can I raise concerns and do the right thing without being regarded as not a team player??

  2. How do I stay motivated on a team that’s always sick?

    I’m on a team of 3 ICs and one manager. The other two ICs are plagued by health issues. I am trying to be empathetic, but this has been going on for the at least a year. One of them regularly takes sick days, often turning into sick weeks. The other has a long term issue and regularly does half days. This affects our ability to produce results, but we don’t have a PM and don’t really have deadlines given the nature of our work, so it’s not really noticed. I feel like we are moving a lot slower than we could be, and when we do check-ins on our goals at the end of each quarter, we maybe only hit like 50% of our goals.

    To me it’s quite obvious why we don’t hit our goals, but everyone else seems to be surprised by it. My manager can’t manage with enough rigor to produce results. I’ve brought this up to them before (our goal misses, not teammates being sick), but nothing seems to change. As the only seemingly-healthy member of the team, there’s no incentive to work more than the bare minimum. I feel like I should be taking more sick days! This is very demotivating and I feel like I’m stagnating. How would you all approach this situation? Should I also suddenly have health issues? Is this actually a blessing in disguise and I should make the most of it?

Show Notes

https://overcast.fm/+ABLmzfhZxak


The weekly advice Soft Skills Engineering podcast, hosted by Jamison Dance and Dave Smith, operates on a simple but profound premise: writing excellent code is only one part of a successful career. The real challenges-and opportunities-often lie in everything else. This is a show dedicated entirely to the human side of software development. Each episode tackles the messy, complicated, and frequently unspoken questions that developers face daily. You’ll hear thoughtful discussions and practical advice on navigating office politics, having difficult conversations with managers, negotiating salaries, managing time and energy, collaborating effectively on a team, and building a sustainable, long-term career without burning out. It’s the crucial curriculum that most computer science degrees never cover. Jamison and Dave bring a blend of experience, empathy, and humor to these topics, offering perspectives that are both actionable and relatable. For anyone who has ever wondered how to handle a toxic coworker, get promoted, or simply find more fulfillment in their work, this podcast provides a much-needed forum. It’s a consistent source of guidance for the parts of the job that don’t involve a compiler, reminding listeners that their growth as a professional is inextricably linked to their growth as a communicator, a colleague, and a person. Tune in for honest conversations that go beyond the technical screen.
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