Dating after divorce isn't a downgrade. It's the first time you get to pick a partner with your eyes wide open, and that's exactly what I'm digging into this episode.
I walk through what's genuinely different about dating in midlife: the full history you're carrying, the fact that your intentions have shifted from figuring yourself out to actually knowing what you want, and why a smaller dating pool raises the stakes on every single date. I get into my biggest pet peeve, texting standing in for real conversation, the physical changes that change how intimacy actually works, and why the terrain feels rougher this time, from rebuilding a social circle from scratch to navigating kids, exes, and logistics that never existed the first time around.
I also get into the part nobody prepares you for: dating later in life comes with real advantages. No ticking clock. No pressure. The ability to filter for character instead of potential, because you've watched enough people over enough decades to spot the patterns early. And a bonus round of tips for anyone braving the apps, including the photos that help you and the ones that hurt you.
If you're dating after divorce right now, approach it with excitement instead of fear. Yes, there are moments that suck. There are also more moments of meeting new people, learning new things, and trying activities you never would have imagined earlier in life.
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In This Episode:
0:00 – Dating After Divorce Isn't a Downgrade
0:09 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth
0:24 – Today's Topic: What's Really Different About Dating After Divorce
0:57 – Full History, New Intentions & a Smaller Pool
1:59 – More Baggage, Texting & Physical Changes
2:47 – Why the Terrain Feels Rougher (Rebuilding, Grief & Logistics)
3:43 – Newsletter Break
4:00 – Rejection Hits Different — Then the Real Advantages
4:34 – Filtering for Character, Better Sex & Choosing Connection
5:11 – Bonus: Online Dating & Profile Tips
6:38 – Approach It With Excitement
To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!
About The Host:
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
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