Part 2 of my interview with Dr. Tara goes deeper into erotic solutions for long term relationships, techniques that rebuild desire and the practices couples use to reconnect without penetration. Dr. Tara breaks down yab yum, sexual meditation, mutual masturbation and the role lube plays in midlife pleasure. You learn why women respond differently to pressure, why adoration matters more than appreciation and why most couples never speak honestly about kink. Dr. Tara also explains sex parties, sex cruises, female ejaculation, squirting technique, cuckolding, hot wifing and how non monogamous couples build trust. This episode gives you practical tools to increase intimacy, try new experiences and communicate without fear.
Timestamps:
00:00 Part 2 intro
00:18 Why couples need more than toys
00:40 Erotic solutions for sexless marriages
01:05 Yab yum explained
02:02 How yab yum builds intimacy
02:45 Breathwork and skin-on-skin connection
03:20 Removing pressure and responsive desire
04:05 Why midlife women shut down sexually
04:42 The role of lube in midlife pleasure
05:20 How to give a yoni massage
06:10 Slip and slide technique with lube
06:45 Why receiving is hard for many women
07:20 Why hand jobs are powerful for connection
08:02 Using a vibrator while giving a hand job
08:40 Why giving can boost intimacy
09:20 Appreciation vs adoration
10:15 Why women need adoration to feel sexy
11:00 Emotional safety and sexual openness
11:32 How to ask for kink without scaring your partner
12:10 Using the media mention method for kink
12:52 Dr. Tara’s sexual profile
13:33 What “kinky” means for different people
14:10 What erotic parties are really like
15:02 Why sex parties are safer than nightclubs
15:45 The age differences at sex parties
16:12 Female led sex parties and sex cruises
17:05 Dr. Tara’s first sex party experience
17:40 Understanding squirting and female ejaculation
18:15 The technique that triggers squirting
19:02 Can you make yourself squirt
19:40 Cuckolding and hot wifing explained
20:10 How open couples build trust and connection
Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!
About the Guest:
Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.
Connect with Dr Tara:
Website: https://www.luvbites.co
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com
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