In part 1 of this episode, Dr. Tara joins me for a conversation about sexual repression, sexual expression, mindful masturbation and why communication shapes every satisfying relationship. You learn how cultural conditioning shapes your sex life. You learn why exposure therapy helps you rebuild confidence with sexual pleasure. You learn how to restart sexual conversations in long relationships without shame or pressure. You also learn why non penetration activities often bring couples in midlife back to desire. This episode delivers practical tools you can use tonight. And be sure to come back for part 2 on Friday!
In this episode:
00:00 Intro
00:26 Why orgasms trigger emotional release
02:15 Dr. Tara’s background and early sexual repression
04:55 Culture shock and body confidence in Finland
06:45 Moving to the US and studying relationships
08:24 The moment she shifted into sexuality research
09:32 Divorce, shame and rebuilding sexual identity
11:05 Ethical non monogamy and communication skills
12:14 How exposure therapy builds sexual comfort
13:28 Mindful masturbation and sexual meditation
14:42 How to restart sexual conversations with your partner
15:51 Erotic solutions for sexless or low desire marriages
17:10 Part two coming soon!
Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!
About the guest:
Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.
Connect with Dr Tara:
Website: https://www.luvbites.co
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co
Book: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) - https://a.co/d/1XloTnj
About The Host:
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com
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