What if your most intimate moments were weaponized against you—and no one cared?
At 19, Norma Buster thought she was just ending a relationship. Instead, she became the target of relentless stalking, threats, and the ultimate violation: her private photos exposed online. She turned to the law for justice. It failed her, but she didn’t back down. Now, as Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg and host of Oral Arguments, Norma is fighting tech-facilitated abuse, exposing legal loopholes, and demanding change.
In this episode, we dive into her harrowing journey from victim to advocate. Why do abusers get more protection than victims? How do tech platforms keep enabling harm? And what can we do about it?
We’ll also explore the blurred lines between online sex work and exploitation, the problem with calling it “revenge porn,” and how Norma found power in the unlikeliest of places—including OnlyFans.
This isn’t just a story. It’s a wake up call. Are you ready? Let’s get into it!
Timestamps:
- (00:39) Introduction to Norma Buster
- (01:50) Norma’s story: Surviving stalking and image-based abuse from ex-boyfriend
- (04:48) The legal fight: How laws fail victims of revenge porn
- (09:04) Tech-facilitated abuse: When the internet becomes a weapon
- (11:03) Why sex workers need legal protection/Sex Work and Decriminalization
- (14:44) Is OnlyFans legal?
- (15:00) The difference between legalization and decriminalization
- (16:36) Norma's journey to OnlyFans
- (20:12)The therapeutic aspect of sex work
- (24:07) How her advocacy impacts dating and relationships
- (27:01) Norma's definition of sex
About the Guest:
Norma Buster is a sex-positive victim’s rights advocate and the Chief of Staff at CA Goldberg, a law firm specializing in tech-facilitated abuse. Once a victim of image-based sexual abuse, she now fights for others in similar situations, advocating for stronger legal protections and digital safety. She’s also the creator and host of Oral Arguments, a podcast that explores the intersections of sex, tech, and the law.
You can find Norma here:
Website
LinkedIn
Instagram
CA Goldberg Law Firm
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: karen@taboototruth.com
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
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