Why Midlife Women Stop Having Sex (and How to Fix It) | Ep. 112

Why Midlife Women Stop Having Sex (and How to Fix It) | Ep. 112

Author: Karen Bigman September 13, 2025 Duration: 6:24

Midlife women aren’t avoiding sex—they’re avoiding pain, boredom, and frustration. In this episode, I unpack the real reasons intimacy fades during midlife and what couples can do to reconnect. From hormone shifts and low libido to communication struggles and painful sex, Karen provides practical solutions and compassionate insights to help couples reignite intimacy.

If you’ve ever wondered why your partner seems to avoid the bedroom, this episode gives you the tools to start the right conversation and explore solutions—from medical options like hormone therapy to introducing new ways of creating pleasure.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Why midlife women avoid sex

00:35 – Hormones, menopause & low libido

01:25 – Emotional struggles & stress

02:05 – Boring or painful sex: the silent killers

03:15 – The power of communication

04:10 – Possible solutions: hormones, therapy & vibrators

05:05 – Final advice: reconnecting with love

Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.


This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.


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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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In a culture that often whispers about aging and ignores the sexuality of older adults, Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50 speaks in a clear, confident voice. Hosted by certified sex educator and coach Karen Bigman, this podcast transforms hushed conversations into open, honest dialogue. Karen’s straightforward and candid approach dismantles the stigma surrounding midlife intimacy, creating a vital space for education and support. Each episode explores the intricate, real-life experiences of dating, relationships, and physical connection after fifty. You’ll hear practical insights on navigating sex post-divorce, the triumphs of rediscovering desire, and the unique challenges that come with these transformative years. This isn’t abstract theory; it’s grounded conversation about the evolving landscape of pleasure, health, and partnership. By diving deep into topics often left unspoken, the show provides both reassurance and actionable guidance. Whether you’re seeking to understand your own journey or to simply listen and learn, this podcast meets you with expertise and empathy. Karen Bigman ensures every discussion moves from societal silence toward personal truth, making Taboo to Truth an essential listen for anyone redefining what life and intimacy mean in the second half.
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