EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview

Author: Robyn Gobbel May 19, 2026 Duration: 1:01:53
A single mom who adopted boy-girl twins through foster care shares about her slow, almost invisible journey from survival mode to genuinely delighting in her now-13-year-old kids. Nothing shifted in one big moment. Yet somehow, everything changed. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the shift from "I have to fix this right now" to "I can just be with you in this" is the thing that changes everything — for your kids and for youHow letting go of performing shame (in school meetings, with p...

Robyn Gobbel, an internationally recognized expert in children's mental health, hosts The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}. This podcast serves as a compassionate guide for parents raising children whose nervous systems are vulnerable due to past trauma, toxic stress, neuroimmune disorders, or sensory processing differences. Each episode is dedicated to decoding the confusing and often overwhelming behaviors that can leave caregivers feeling isolated and unsure. Robyn translates complex neuroscience and attachment theory into practical, relatable insights, moving beyond simple behavioral tips to address the root causes of family stress. You'll find a sense of community and understanding here, a place where the struggle is acknowledged without judgment. The conversations in this podcast offer more than strategies; they provide a framework for building safety and connection, helping to shift your perspective from "what's wrong with my child" to "what happened to my child." It’s a resource for anyone exhausted by conventional advice that hasn't worked, emphasizing that you are not alone on this journey. Through stories, expert interviews, and Robyn's own grounded wisdom, the podcast fosters resilience and hope, empowering you to create a family life grounded in co-regulation and mutual understanding.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Podcast Episodes
{REPLAY} Grief in Parenting a Child with a VNS [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:18
If you're parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system, grief is an ever-present companion, whether we acknowledge grief or not. The holiday season often stirs that grief up a bit more. Our kids need more accomodat…
EP  243: Cool, Calculated- But Still in Protection Mode [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:43
Sometimes our kids look completely calm- even smug — while doing something that definitely isn’t a behavior of connection. But…they’re not melting down. They’re not screaming. They seem totally in control. Seems kinda li…
EP 242: Why It's Hard for Your Kid to Take Responsibility [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:31
You ask your child what happened, and before you can finish the sentence, they’re already saying, “It wasn’t my fault!” Sound familiar? I know this is SO frustrating! But there’s a reason this is so hard, and it has ever…
EP 241: Why Some People Resist Relational Neuroscience [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:38
Sometimes you share something about the brain—like how all behavior makes sense—and people push back hard. Maybe they dismiss it. Maybe they even get mad. It can feel confusing, because once you see the truth of relation…
EP 240: Window of Tolerance- What it Is and How to Grow It [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 35:24
Sometimes, your kids can handle frustration or disappointment with ease, and other times the exact same challenge sends them into meltdown mode. This can feel really baffling! Why are they so inconsistent? Well, part of…
EP 239: When Your Words and Feelings Don’t Match [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:31
Have you ever smiled while you were seething inside? Or told your child “it’s fine” when it absolutely wasn’t? That mismatch (incongruent affect, we’re gonna talk psychology mumbo jumbo) isn’t just confusing. It’s a cue…
EP 238: Happy Birthday RKBBB- and a gift for you! [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 46:09
Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors turned TWO! 🥳 So, we’re having a party right here on the podcast. Parties have gifts, so I’m offering three “gifts” for you- a little help around three behaviors that are still SO…
{REPLAY} Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 49:51
Understanding behavior helps us actually solve the problem, leads to compassion, and actually helps behavior to change, but first we must understand why we are so afraid that understanding behaviors means we are excusing…
EP 237: Connection: A Biological Imperative (for parents) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:08
Parents aren’t the only ones providing co-regulation — we need it too. In fact, connection is a biological imperative for every nervous system, including yours. When you’re raising kids with big, baffling behaviors, the…