REPLAY: When Connection isn't Safe- Oppositional Series Part 3

REPLAY: When Connection isn't Safe- Oppositional Series Part 3

Author: Robyn Gobbel December 30, 2025 Duration: 42:59
If offering safety and connection is the antidote to oppositional behavior, what do you do if connection isn’t experienced as safe or regulating by your child? In this episode you’ll learn: How connection and protection can get tied togetherHow to keep offering connection, even when it’s consistently rejected by your childThe science behind why YOU need to be receiving connection - and how you can do that even if you don’t have a lot of extra time or supportive people in your lifeResources me...

Robyn Gobbel, an internationally recognized expert in children's mental health, hosts The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}. This podcast serves as a compassionate guide for parents raising children whose nervous systems are vulnerable due to past trauma, toxic stress, neuroimmune disorders, or sensory processing differences. Each episode is dedicated to decoding the confusing and often overwhelming behaviors that can leave caregivers feeling isolated and unsure. Robyn translates complex neuroscience and attachment theory into practical, relatable insights, moving beyond simple behavioral tips to address the root causes of family stress. You'll find a sense of community and understanding here, a place where the struggle is acknowledged without judgment. The conversations in this podcast offer more than strategies; they provide a framework for building safety and connection, helping to shift your perspective from "what's wrong with my child" to "what happened to my child." It’s a resource for anyone exhausted by conventional advice that hasn't worked, emphasizing that you are not alone on this journey. Through stories, expert interviews, and Robyn's own grounded wisdom, the podcast fosters resilience and hope, empowering you to create a family life grounded in co-regulation and mutual understanding.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Podcast Episodes
EP 268: Why Sticky Behaviors Stay Stuck (Part 1 of 3) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 52:07
If you've tried everything and a behavior just won't stop…that's a sticky behavior. Let's dive deeeeeep into the neuroscience behind the behaviors that feel impossible to change. We'll touch on how the brain stores predi…
Ep. 267: Boredom Triggers Dysregulation [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 53:20
When kids can't tolerate boredom, it's easy to forget to put on our X-ray vision goggles and chalk it up to too much screen time or even not enough gratitude. Our kids’ reaction to boredom triggers OUR watchdog brain! If…
EP 266: When Things Are Genuinely Impossible: One Dad’s Story [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 56:06
A dad - who is also a former foster youth and the director of non-profit supporting foster and adoptive families - shares an honest and tender conversation about what it's actually like to parent kids with big, baffling…
EP 265: Nothing Changed & Everything Changed - A mom interview [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:01:53
A single mom who adopted boy-girl twins through foster care shares about her slow, almost invisible journey from survival mode to genuinely delighting in her now-13-year-old kids. Nothing shifted in one big moment. Yet s…
EP 264: Responding to the Judgement and Advice from Others [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 41:12
Parenting kids with big, baffling behaviors is hard enough. THEN someone has opinions about it. This episode breaks down why people say the things they say, what's actually happening in you when judgment lands, and how t…
EP 263: The Framework That Works on Everyone in the Room [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:40
Whether you're supporting a dysregulated eight-year-old, a parent who's convinced nothing is working, or the version of yourself driving home after a really hard week, the science is exactly the same. Let’s look at how t…
EP 262: Why Helpers Burn Out- and what to do about it [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:28
The helpers ~ therapists, coaches, teachers, advocates ~ are burning out at alarming rates. We talk endlessly about self-care, caseload management, and having better boundaries but almost nobody is addressing the root ca…
EP 261: When It's Not Working: Troubleshooting [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:56
You've learned about the nervous system, you're trying to co-regulate, you're thinking about felt safety and connection — and the behavior is still happening! WHY?!?! This episode is a troubleshooting guide for exactly t…
{REPLAY} Is Co-Regulation Just Coddling?? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:29
This episode originally aired in September 2024. Almost every time I teach, especially if there are folks in the audience not already familiar with my work or the concept of co-regulation, someone asks the very valid que…
EP 260: No Strategy Will Fix This: What Actually Helped Instead [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 52:56
Listen in on a conversation I have with a Club member whose family lived through years of intense, violent, and deeply isolating behavior…and eventually found their way to something different. It’s a story about holding…