Being Your Own Advocate: Questions to Consider As You Create Your Support Team {Eps 90}

Being Your Own Advocate: Questions to Consider As You Create Your Support Team {Eps 90}

Author: Melinda Patrick April 4, 2025 Duration: 20:23

Welcome to The Bridge Between Us Podcast, where we navigate the challenges and opportunities of walking alongside LGBTQ-identified loved ones from a Biblical perspective. Hosted by Melinda Patrick, today's solo episode is all about being your own advocate as you build a support team for your personal journey.

In Today's Episode, You'll Hear About:

  • The importance of a support system and how Jesus' story of raising Lazarus teaches us that no one walks the journey alone.
  • The need for Godly counsel and guidance in your healing process.
  • Signs to look for that indicate you might need professional help, including counselors or therapists, to aid you through grief or trauma.
  • How to interview a counselor to ensure they align with your Biblical convictions and are a good fit for your needs.
  • Practical questions you should ask potential counselors to be your own advocate.
  • The role of trusting in God's process and finding freedom not just for your loved one, but for yourself too.

Key Scriptures Discussed:

  • John 11:44 – The story of Lazarus: Jesus doesn't expect us to walk alone.
  • Galatians 6:2 – Carry one another's burdens and fulfill the law of Christ.
  • Romans 8:28-29 – God works all things for our good and transforms us into the image of His Son.
  • Proverbs 11:14, 20:5, 24:6 – The wisdom and safety found in seeking godly counsel.

Key Takeaways:

  • Building a support team of friends, prayer warriors, counselors, and more is essential to emotional and spiritual healing.
  • A biblical counselor can provide guidance and a fresh perspective when you're stuck in grief or difficult circumstances.
  • As a self-advocate, you have the right to interview and find the right counselor who aligns with your values.
  • Healing and freedom aren't just for your loved one—they're for YOU too. Your journey is just as much about your own transformation.

Red Flags: Signs You May Need Help

Melinda shares some red flags to watch for to determine if you might be struggling with grief or trauma:

  1. Difficulty remembering the last time you laughed or enjoyed time with loved ones.
  2. Struggling to engage in activities you once loved.
  3. Feeling emotionally drained by everyday tasks.
  4. Avoiding people or conversations.
  5. Trouble celebrating others' successes.
  6. Feeling overwhelmed by bitterness, guilt, or sadness.

Questions to Ask Your Counselor:

  • How does your Christian faith influence your approach to therapy?
  • What's your view on marriage and gender?
  • What do you believe about homosexuality, and how does that affect your counseling approach?
  • Do you see the Bible as the final authority in your practice?

These questions will help you determine if a counselor aligns with your faith and values before diving deeper into the therapeutic process.

Resources Mentioned:

 

Want to Connect?
Melinda loves to hear from listeners! If you're navigating your own journey, need encouragement, or want to share your story, feel free to email Melinda at melinda@melindapatrick.org.

Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who might need it.

Until next time, remember:
God has entrusted this journey to you. As you engage with Him, He will equip you for each next step.

 

*Disclaimer:
The opinions and advice shared on this podcast are intended for informational purposes and are not a substitute for professional counseling. Always seek appropriate guidance and support for your personal needs.


Melinda Patrick hosts The Bridge Between Us: A Guide For Christian Parents Navigating the LGBTQ Conversation, a space created for those navigating one of family life's most complex and emotional journeys. This podcast speaks directly to the moment a parent learns their child identifies as LGBTQ-a moment often met with a whirlwind of love, fear, faith questions, and a deep desire to preserve connection. Rather than offering simplistic answers, these conversations explore the nuanced tension between deeply held religious beliefs and the unconditional love for a child. Melinda brings empathy and understanding to the heartbreak and confusion, assuring parents they are not alone in their struggle. Each episode delves into practical aspects of building and maintaining that essential bridge of relationship, discussing what it means to embody both grace and truth in daily interactions. The dialogue here is for parents seeking to move beyond fear or isolation, looking for a compassionate path forward that honors their faith and their child. By focusing on real stories and thoughtful perspectives, this podcast becomes a vital resource for strengthening family bonds during a time of profound change. It’s about finding a way to walk together, even when the path feels unfamiliar.
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