#698: Why Trying Harder Is Keeping You Stuck

#698: Why Trying Harder Is Keeping You Stuck

Author: Trish Blackwell April 7, 2026 Duration: 24:01

Most people believe success comes from trying harder.

  • Pushing harder.
  • Working harder.
  • Forcing themselves to "be better."

But that mindset often creates the exact things that hold us back: pressure, perfectionism, hesitation, and fear of failure.

In this episode, I'm introducing a powerful shift that will change the way you approach growth, confidence, and progress in your life:

  • Stop trying.
  • Start testing.

When you treat life like a series of experiments instead of pass/fail tests, everything changes. Failure becomes feedback. Action becomes data. And confidence grows faster because you stop making every outcome mean something about your worth.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why the "try harder" mindset actually sabotages confidence

• How adopting an experiment mindset reduces fear and overthinking

• The 5 areas of your life you should start testing immediately

• How to turn setbacks into useful data instead of self-criticism

• A simple 3-question framework to help you run experiments in your daily life

If you've ever felt stuck, hesitant, or like you're putting too much pressure on yourself to get things right… this episode will help you move forward with curiosity, courage, and momentum.

Because confident people don't succeed more than everyone else.

They just run more experiments.

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It's a quiet, persistent feeling that you're not quite measuring up, even when everything looks fine on the outside. The Confidence Podcast: Mindset Coaching and Tips to Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs, Self-Doubt, Perfectionism, Overthinking, Impostor Syndrome and Insecurity speaks directly into that space. Hosted by Trish Blackwell, a seasoned confidence coach, these conversations are for anyone-particularly women-who are tired of their own inner critic holding them back from the purpose they sense is within them. You’ll find practical coaching strategies here, but also a deeper, integrated perspective that weaves together mindset work with spiritual grounding. Episodes tackle the very real cycles of overthinking and self-doubt, offering actionable tips to break free and build a more resilient, authentic sense of self. Trish’s approach is both compassionate and direct, guiding you to move from a place of insecurity to one of courageous action. This isn't about a superficial fix; it's about aligning your inner world with your faith and potential. Tuning into this podcast feels like a coaching session blended with a heartfelt talk, all aimed at helping you silence the noise of not-enoughness and step into the confidence you were meant to live with.
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