#715: What If You Saw Yourself the Way Other People See You?

#715: What If You Saw Yourself the Way Other People See You?

Author: Trish Blackwell August 4, 2026 Duration: 33:43

What if the person you're the most wrong about... is you?

Most of us spend our lives looking at ourselves through a lens of criticism. We notice every flaw, replay every mistake, and dismiss every compliment. Meanwhile, the people around us see something completely different—they see your kindness, your strength, your beauty, your resilience, and the impact you make without even realizing it.

So why is there such a gap?

 

In this episode, we're talking about the biased narrator inside your mind—the inner voice that remembers your failures more vividly than your victories and convinces you that its version of the story is the truth.

You'll learn:

  • Why you're often the least objective person when it comes to judging yourself
  • How self-criticism distorts your self-image
  • Why it's so hard to believe compliments—and what to do instead
  • How to challenge the biased narrator in your head
  • Why building others up might be one of the most powerful ways to change the way you see yourself

If you've ever looked in the mirror and only seen what needs fixing, or wondered why everyone else seems to see something in you that you can't, this episode is for you.

Because confidence isn't pretending you're perfect.

It's finally seeing yourself a little more honestly—and maybe even a little more like the people who love you already do.

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It's a quiet, persistent feeling that you're not quite measuring up, even when everything looks fine on the outside. The Confidence Podcast: Mindset Coaching and Tips to Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs, Self-Doubt, Perfectionism, Overthinking, Impostor Syndrome and Insecurity speaks directly into that space. Hosted by Trish Blackwell, a seasoned confidence coach, these conversations are for anyone-particularly women-who are tired of their own inner critic holding them back from the purpose they sense is within them. You’ll find practical coaching strategies here, but also a deeper, integrated perspective that weaves together mindset work with spiritual grounding. Episodes tackle the very real cycles of overthinking and self-doubt, offering actionable tips to break free and build a more resilient, authentic sense of self. Trish’s approach is both compassionate and direct, guiding you to move from a place of insecurity to one of courageous action. This isn't about a superficial fix; it's about aligning your inner world with your faith and potential. Tuning into this podcast feels like a coaching session blended with a heartfelt talk, all aimed at helping you silence the noise of not-enoughness and step into the confidence you were meant to live with.
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