Ditch Dating Apps and Find Love in The Wild with 'Human Love Quest'

Ditch Dating Apps and Find Love in The Wild with 'Human Love Quest'

Author: freyagraf September 8, 2025 Duration: 1:27:04

This week on The Labia Lounge pod, I sit down with Conor and Xander, from Human Love Quest—a live, on-stage dating show! HLQ is a potent antidote to the monotony (and, let's face it, dehumanisation) of dating apps! We dive into the world of “dating in the wild,” exploring how to cultivate confidence, approach connections in real life, and maybe even find your own meet-cute moment.


Conor and Xander pull back the curtain on what it’s really like to host their inclusive, hilarious, and surprisingly wholesome dating show, plus, we get real about how the pandemic, tech, and social shifts have transformed how we socialize and search for love in 2025.


You’ll hear confessions about awkward early sex ed (shoutout to Harold the Giraffe), real-talk about social anxiety and dating app fatigue, and practical tips on how to put yourself out there without feeling like a creep—or a walking rejection waiting to happen.

Highlights include:

  • The inspo behind Human Love Quest and what actually happens at their events
  • Why we’re more anxious, less socially skilled, and lonelier than ever—and how live dating events and taking some risks with new connections IRL can bridge the gap
  • Fun (and cringe) stories from the "Ahoy There" love notes barrel
  • Practical, modern advice for both men and women to make authentic connections in person, even if it’s terrifying!
  • The reality of dating apps—what they help with, what they mess up, and how much they’re monetising our loneliness


If you’re craving authentic connection, ready to ditch the apps (at least for a night), or just want to laugh and learn about love in the modern age, this episode is for you. AND I'd highly recommend attending a HLQ event at your earliest convenience - it's good shit!


Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!


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Hosted by holistic sex coach and Yoni Mapping Therapist Freya Graf, The Labia Lounge is a candid and often hilarious space for conversations that mainstream culture often tiptoes around. This podcast delves into the interconnected realms of sexuality, womanhood, and holistic health with a refreshing lack of filter. Freya approaches intimate topics with the warmth and directness of a trusted friend, aiming to provide the kind of practical, compassionate education many never received. Each episode feels like a real chat among real people, blending personal stories, professional insight, and plenty of laughter. The discussions naturally explore how physical, emotional, and cultural dimensions of our lives intersect, all delivered with a down-to-earth Aussie sensibility. Listening to this podcast feels like pulling up a chair for an honest, empowering, and surprisingly funny yarn about the things that matter most in our personal journeys. It’s for anyone curious about deepening their understanding of themselves and their relationships, seeking a blend of grounded advice and genuine connection. Expect to feel both informed and entertained as Freya and her guests navigate the full spectrum of human experience with wit and wisdom.
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