Alon Rivel joins Jaimie for a brutally honest, funny, and heartfelt conversation about what it really takes—emotionally, financially, and spiritually—to build a queer family through surrogacy. From his surrogate’s iconic one-liners (“I’m not keeping it”) to his reflection that queer parents are architects of love, Alon reminds us what intentional parenthood looks like.
🏳️🌈 Key Takeaways
- The intentionality of queer family building—“We don’t choose to be gay, but we choose to have families.”
- Growing up gay in a Jewish-Israeli household in New York, finding safety through love and community.
- The surrogacy process from start to finish, including choosing an egg donor, working with Circle Surrogacy, and navigating the language (and insurance nightmares) that still exclude LGBTQ+ parents.
- Building lifelong relationships with both their surrogate and egg donor—relationships that have become extended family.
- Raising their son with full transparency about his origin story, teaching body honesty, and dismantling shame from day one.
- The cost, the fight for recognition (“Say mom again!”), and the joy of finally holding their son.
🏳️🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️🌈
- Alon Rivel (he/him) is a gay dad and husband. Alon and his husband built their family through surrogacy after a decade-long relationship, a pandemic pivot, and a $220K price tag—and they’re raising their son surrounded by love, transparency, and the chosen family who helped bring him into the world.
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