Raised by Two Moms: Zach Wahls on LGBTQ Families, Advocacy & Running for Senate

Raised by Two Moms: Zach Wahls on LGBTQ Families, Advocacy & Running for Senate

Author: Jaimie Kelton – Queer Parenting & LGBTQ Families'. May 11, 2026 Duration: 42:13

What happens when a kid from a queer family chooses to stand up and defend his family in front of lawmakers?

Zach Wahls—author, advocate, and Iowa State Senator—first made national headlines as a teenager when he spoke out in support of his two moms during a marriage equality hearing. The moment went viral and helped shift the conversation around LGBTQ+ families.

But this conversation goes far beyond that speech.

Zach shares what it was really like growing up with two moms in the Midwest—from navigating homophobia in school to the fear of speaking up, including the moment he stayed silent as a kid and how that experience shaped his path into advocacy.

The conversation also explores the intentionality behind queer family building, how parents can support their kids in finding their own voice (without forcing them into advocacy), and what it means to grow up in a family that’s often politicized.

Now running for U.S. Senate, Zach also speaks to what’s at stake in the current political moment—and why this fight still matters.

This episode is about courage, timing, and finding your voice—when you’re ready.

If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it—and don’t forget to follow, rate, and review The Queer Family Podcast to help more families find these stories.


🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

  • Growing up with two moms wasn’t the hardest part—navigating the world’s reaction was
  • The moment Zach didn’t speak up—and how it shaped his future advocacy
  • Why intentional parenting is a defining trait in queer families
  • How to support kids in advocating for themselves—without forcing them into it
  • What’s at stake politically right now for LGBTQ families and beyond
  • Why finding your voice is a process—not a requirement


🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)

Zach Wahls is an Iowa State Senator, author, and nationally recognized advocate for LGBTQ+ families. Raised by two moms, he first gained national attention for his viral 2011 testimony in support of marriage equality. Today, he continues his advocacy through public service and is currently running for the U.S. Senate.


🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentioned

  • Website: https://zachwahls.com/


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