Surrogacy for Gay Dads: Cost, Ethics & Building a Family

Surrogacy for Gay Dads: Cost, Ethics & Building a Family

Author: Jaimie Kelton – Queer Parenting & LGBTQ Families'. March 23, 2026 Duration: 54:39

Jaimie sits down with Daniel Berezowsky to talk about his and his husband’s journey to parenthood through surrogacy — and how their work in human rights shaped every step.

They share the emotional and financial realities of IVF, choosing an egg donor, and waiting to be matched with a surrogate, along with the surprising lessons they learned along the way — including letting go of assumptions and expanding what family can look like.

A thoughtful, honest conversation about queer family building, intention, and hope.

🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

  • You don’t need to have everything figured out before taking the first step toward parenthood
  • Surrogacy is complex, emotional, and often far more expensive than expected
  • Approaching family building through a human rights lens can lead to more intentional, ethical decisions
  • The process of choosing an egg donor can feel overwhelming and deeply personal
  • Matching with a surrogate can take time — and requires patience and trust
  • Assumptions about people or places don’t always reflect reality
  • Queer family building often expands the meaning of family in beautiful and unexpected ways
  • Even when the path feels uncertain, hope and community matter


🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s) Daniel Berezowsky is a human rights practitioner, writer, and soon-to-be dad who is documenting his journey to parenthood with his husband through his platform, Two Dads to Be. Originally from Mexico and now living in New York City, Daniel brings a thoughtful, human rights-centered approach to family building — asking not just how to become a parent, but how to do it with care, intention, and respect for everyone involved.


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Hosted by queer mom Jaimie Kelton, The Queer Family Podcast-LGBTQ Families & Queer Parenting Stories offers a weekly space that is both uproariously funny and deeply genuine. Each episode features conversations with LGBTQIA+ parents, hopeful parents, and their allies, delving into the specific joys and hurdles of building a family outside of traditional frameworks. You’ll hear firsthand accounts of the paths to parenthood-from adoption and fostering to IVF and surrogacy-and the everyday realities of raising kids in a world that can still feel unfamiliar. This podcast moves beyond theory, focusing on lived experiences that cover everything from health and fitness routines that work for queer families to navigating complex conversations about sexuality and society with children. The goal is straightforward: to share stories that normalize these experiences, elevate diverse voices, and celebrate the full spectrum of queer family life. Tuning in means connecting with a community, finding resonance in shared challenges, and gathering a lot of practical wisdom-and laughter-along the way. It’s a resource and a companion for anyone curious about or living within the beautifully expansive definition of a modern family.
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