No Accidents Here: Alon Rivel on Intentional Gay Parenting

No Accidents Here: Alon Rivel on Intentional Gay Parenting

Author: Jaimie Kelton – Queer Parenting & LGBTQ Families'. November 3, 2025 Duration: 53:02

Alon Rivel joins Jaimie for a brutally honest, funny, and heartfelt conversation about what it really takes—emotionally, financially, and spiritually—to build a queer family through surrogacy. From his surrogate’s iconic one-liners (“I’m not keeping it”) to his reflection that queer parents are architects of love, Alon reminds us what intentional parenthood looks like.

🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

  • The intentionality of queer family building—“We don’t choose to be gay, but we choose to have families.”
  • Growing up gay in a Jewish-Israeli household in New York, finding safety through love and community.
  • The surrogacy process from start to finish, including choosing an egg donor, working with Circle Surrogacy, and navigating the language (and insurance nightmares) that still exclude LGBTQ+ parents.
  • Building lifelong relationships with both their surrogate and egg donor—relationships that have become extended family.
  • Raising their son with full transparency about his origin story, teaching body honesty, and dismantling shame from day one.
  • The cost, the fight for recognition (“Say mom again!”), and the joy of finally holding their son.


🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈

  • Alon Rivel (he/him) is a gay dad and husband. Alon and his husband built their family through surrogacy after a decade-long relationship, a pandemic pivot, and a $220K price tag—and they’re raising their son surrounded by love, transparency, and the chosen family who helped bring him into the world.


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Every family has a story, but the paths taken by LGBTQIA+ parents are often uniquely creative, filled with both profound joy and specific hurdles. The Queer Family Podcast-LGBTQ Families & Queer Parenting Stories is a weekly space where those narratives take center stage. Host Jaimie Kelton, a queer mom herself, guides conversations that are as laugh-out-loud funny as they are deeply moving. Each episode features candid interviews with a diverse range of guests, all sharing the intimate details of how they built their families-from adoption and fostering to IVF, surrogacy, and co-parenting. You’ll hear how these families navigate school systems, healthcare, and everyday social situations, tackling challenges with resilience and humor. This podcast digs into the real stuff of queer family life, covering topics across parenting, health, fitness, and sexuality, all through an authentic LGBTQ lens. The goal isn’t just to share stories; it’s to normalize and celebrate the beautiful spectrum of ways to create a home. Tune in for a sense of community, practical insights, and a powerful reminder that family is about love, in all its forms.
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