#271: If Not Now When - Responding To Requests & Building Up Impulse Control

#271: If Not Now When - Responding To Requests & Building Up Impulse Control

Author: Kim John Payne/Center for Social Sustainability July 17, 2025 Duration: 11:25

In this episode, Kim John Payne explores the importance of helping children learn to delay their requests and respect the timing of others. Rather than always responding immediately or brushing kids off with a vague “in a minute,” Kim encourages parents to offer clear, specific guidance on when they can give their full attention. He offers practical phrases and techniques for children of different ages, emphasizing that this approach builds impulse control and sets children up for success in relationships and group settings. By modeling respectful timing and consistently circling back, parents teach their children patience, empathy, and how to be part of a larger family rhythm.

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Kim John Payne, author of the bestselling book "Simplicity Parenting," brings his decades of experience as a family counselor and educator directly to you in The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne. Each episode feels like a thoughtful conversation, moving beyond quick tips to explore the deeper rhythms of family life. You’ll hear practical wisdom on reducing the clutter-not just of toys, but of schedules, expectations, and digital noise-that so often overwhelms modern childhood. This podcast delves into how creating a calmer, more predictable home environment can strengthen your child's resilience, focus, and sense of security. Payne addresses real questions from parents, offering grounded strategies for everything from sibling rivalry and screen time to fostering authentic play and emotional well-being. The discussions are rooted in the understanding that simplifying isn't about deprivation, but about making space for connection and growth. Tune in for a supportive, nuanced exploration of parenting that honors the unique spirit of your family. Each weekly episode serves as a gentle reminder that the most meaningful moments often arise from a less hurried, more intentional approach to life together.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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Duration: 14:29
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#198: Drawing Close When Someone is Vulnerable [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 10:46
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#197: The Real Gifting - Modeling Authenticity [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 15:07
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#195: It's Okay To See Things Differently [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 15:29
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#194: Kids Taking Control... In the Right Way [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 11:27
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#193: When a Parent is Struggling With Addiction [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 18:14
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