#27: Radical Acceptance During a Pandemic

#27: Radical Acceptance During a Pandemic

Author: Bay Area DBT & Couples Counseling Center May 19, 2020 Duration: 35:15

Today's show revisits Radical Acceptance in the face of a global pandemic. Marielle and Ed discuss how they are using this skill (or not using it!) during this time.

Ed is using Radical Acceptance a lot lately, as he feels like it is often the only thing to do in this situation. Marielle shares her resistance to using Radical Acceptance during this time, and the ways she works with fear of strong emotions if she radically accepts what's happening in the world.

Unlike other more action-oriented skills in DBT, Radical Acceptance is more of a frame of mind, or a turning toward (rather than away from) what's actually happening in any given moment. 

When we can fully and deeply accept reality, painful emotions may arise. But, if we allow them to move through, often there is a sense of peace on the other side. Plus, it's much harder to take skillful action toward change if we are denying the facts of what is happening.

So much has changed in a few months and the future is uncertain. Loss of all kinds is happening around us and to us. Listen in to learn how the skill of Radical Acceptance can help.

To learn more about this podcast and get full show notes, go to www.bayareadbtcc.com

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