10: ✨ Starting Over Like It’s a Hobby ✨

10: ✨ Starting Over Like It’s a Hobby ✨

Author: Vanessa Ruiz December 10, 2025 Duration: 23:18
If you’re starting over right now — by choice or because life snatched the rug from under you — this episode is your sign.
 Not the soft, gentle kind… the “get up, Doll, your glow-up is calling” kind. ✨😈

We’re talking:
 🔥 healing after heartbreak
 🔥 starting over as a single mom
 🔥 getting fired and rebuilding
 🔥 reinventing yourself when life falls apart
 🔥 letting go of who you were to become who you’re meant to be
 🔥 the messy, chaotic, magical reality of a REAL fresh start

This is the episode for anyone googling “how to start over,” scrolling TikTok for healing videos, or secretly wondering if their life is falling apart or falling into place.

Spoiler: it’s falling into place.

I’m sharing my own plot twists — divorce, being cheated on, moving out with my son at 9 months old, losing my job on maternity leave, rebuilding my career from scratch, and traveling more this year than I ever did in my old life.

Why?
 Because starting over isn’t embarrassing.
 It’s evolution.
 It’s your rebirth arc.
 It’s the part of the movie where the main character (you, Doll) stands back up… stronger, hotter, wiser, and probably with better boundaries. 😉

If you’re in your comeback era, your healing era, your “I refuse to settle” era…
 you need this episode.

🎧 Tune in now and step into the version of you that’s been waiting on the other side of fear. Your fresh start begins here.

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Vanessa is a lot of things: a first-generation Latina, a single mom, a life coach, and someone who’s learned that healing isn't a quiet, polite process. In Unicorns Do Exist, she brings all those identities to the microphone, creating a space that feels like a candid conversation with a close friend who’s been through it. You’ll hear her break down stigmas around mental health and share stories of heartbreak not as endings, but as turning points. The real talk here is grounded in the belief that owning every part of your journey-the messy, the painful, the glorious-is where true transformation begins. This podcast is a blend of personal journal, cultural commentary, and coaching sessions, all woven together with what she calls 'cheesemé'-that perfect mix of heartfelt cheese and spicy truth. Episodes dive into the realities of building a life on your own terms, especially for those who’ve ever felt marginalized or told they were "too much." It’s about finding the high vibes without bypassing the hard work, and the glow-up that comes from radical self-acceptance. Tuning in, you’re not just getting advice; you’re getting a companion for the ride, a reminder that your unique magic isn't just a fantasy-it's your real, undeniable power waiting to be claimed.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 22

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