Made to Want to Change: Conversion Practices

Made to Want to Change: Conversion Practices

Author: Charts & Leisure June 3, 2026 Duration: 47:42

In the first episode of Unravelling’s three-part Pride Month series, Mary and Kurt examine the realities of so-called conversion "therapy," which many survivors, advocates, and researchers more accurately describe as conversion practices. These are not legitimate therapeutic interventions, but harmful efforts designed to change, suppress, or deny a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity.
Mary speaks with Dr. Lucas Wilson, an interdisciplinary scholar of history, religion, gender, and sexuality at the University of Toronto Mississauga and editor of Shame-Sex Attraction: Survivor Stories of Conversion Therapy. Drawing on both his academic research and personal experience, Dr. Wilson explores the many forms conversion practices can take, from church-led programs and family interventions to efforts carried out by licensed professionals. He shares his own story of seeking conversion therapy while attending Liberty University, driven by evangelical teachings that framed queerness as something that needed to be corrected.
He describes the lasting psychological and spiritual consequences of these experiences, including the shift from feeling guilt about specific actions to developing deep shame and self-hatred. He emphasizes that conversion practices remain an ongoing reality today, including at institutions he once attended, and connects contemporary anti-LGBTQ+ movements to longer histories of scapegoating and authoritarian ideology.
Dr. Wilson calls on communities, allies, educators, and faith leaders to remain vocal in opposing these practices and supporting those who have been affected by them.


Links:

Resources: Born Perfect, The Trevor Project

Buy the book: Shame-Sex Attraction: Survivors’ Stories of Conversion Therapy

More about Dr. Lucas Wilson


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