The #1 Thing Holding You Back from Forgiving Someone (Hint: It Goes Beyond Saying "I Forgive.")

The #1 Thing Holding You Back from Forgiving Someone (Hint: It Goes Beyond Saying "I Forgive.")

Author: Jessica Hottle | Christian Life Coach, Spiritual Growth Mentor, Christian Mental Health Coach, Christian Counseling September 4, 2024 Duration: 16:48
If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I forgive them,” but still feel weighed down by lingering anger or hurt, this episode is for you. This week, I dive into the often-overlooked factor that keeps us stuck in the process of forgiveness: blame. As someone who struggled to forgive for years, I know this is a hard topic, but my story has offered me valuable insight into how we can move beyond blame and take responsibility for our healing journey.

Forgiveness doesn’t have to include carrying hurt with you forever. By releasing blame and taking responsibility for our healing, we can move forward with clarity and peace. 

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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Ever feel like your own mind is a knot of worries, doubts, and endless mental chatter? Untangle Your Thoughts is a space where faith meets the practical realities of mental and emotional well-being. Hosted by Jessica Hottle, a Christian life coach and mental health coach, these conversations move beyond surface-level platitudes to explore the tangible intersection of spiritual life and psychological health. You’ll find episodes that delve into navigating negative thought patterns, learning to truly trust in God during uncertainty, and discerning how to hear from God in the clutter of daily life. This podcast approaches emotional healing not as a separate endeavor from spiritual growth, but as a deeply connected journey. Jessica brings her background in Christian counseling and spiritual mentorship to offer grounded perspectives and actionable tips. It’s for anyone who longs for a more peaceful, grounded inner life rooted in a authentic relationship with God. Each episode aims to provide thoughtful reflection and practical tools, creating a resource for those seeking to integrate their faith with honest self-improvement and mental clarity. Tune in for a compassionate and insightful dialogue that honors both your spiritual path and your emotional reality.
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