Episode 157: Erotic Compatibility and Non-Monogamy

Episode 157: Erotic Compatibility and Non-Monogamy

Author: Mr & Mrs Jones's Swinging Adventures June 24, 2026 Duration: 1:33:45

What if the key to greater pleasure, connection, and fulfillment is understanding your unique erotic wiring? In this episode, we explore the Erotic Blueprints™, a framework developed by somatic sexologist Jaiya that helps explain the different ways people experience desire, arousal, and intimacy. We unpack the five Erotic Blueprints—Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter—and explore how each type experiences pleasure differently.

We also share how this framework has become a valuable tool for relationships and individuals. Time and again, we've watched people experience powerful "aha" moments as they discover why certain experiences excite them, why others don't, and where misunderstandings with partners may be coming from. Understanding your blueprint can remove shame, increase self-awareness, and provide a new language for discussing desire, boundaries, and pleasure. We also share our own blueprint profiles and discuss how different types can learn to better understand and connect with one another.

Finally, we explore how Erotic Blueprints can enrich experiences within ethical non-monogamy and the lifestyle. The goal isn't to put yourself in a box, but to better understand your erotic "home" while remaining curious about other ways of experiencing pleasure. By learning each other's unique wiring, couples can expand their erotic vocabulary, deepen connection, and create more meaningful experiences together.

Mentioned in this episode:

Expansive Connection Coaching Events

The Erotic Blueprint with Miss Jaiya

Contact Mr Jones for a promo code to try the We Gotta Thing community for three months!

Book your Desire Resorts trip here

Trial membership to lifestyle dating sites Kasidie and SDC

Music used with permission from Luxe Music Studios:
We Gotta Thing


Ever wondered how a shared adventure might change the view from your own front porch? That’s the space explored in We Gotta Thing-A Swinger Podcast, hosted by a couple who’ve been married for years. As Mr. and Mrs. Jones, they’re not here with a rulebook or a checklist. Instead, each episode unfolds from their own ongoing journey, focusing on how the swinging lifestyle has become a surprising tool for connection and self-discovery within their long-term partnership. You’ll hear their candid reflections on the conversations that happen before, during, and after, tackling everything from navigating jealousy and setting boundaries to the unexpected ways this path has influenced their fitness goals and overall well-being. This podcast is less about instructions and more about exploration-a series of "what if" discussions designed to spark genuine dialogue between partners. It’s for those who are curious, those who are just starting, and those already within the lifestyle who recognize the value of shared stories. By weaving together topics of relationships, sexuality, and personal health with broader cultural perceptions, they offer a grounded, personal narrative. Tune in for honest talk that demystifies and humanizes, helping you and your partner consider where, or if, you might find your own place in such a lifestyle.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

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