51. Sex FAQs - How Do I Get My Libido Back?

51. Sex FAQs - How Do I Get My Libido Back?

Author: Sara Tang, Sexologist & Coach October 9, 2022 Duration: 35:19

How do I get my libido back?

From antidepressants, to trying to conceive and having kids, Sara invites clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kristin Zeising (http://drzeising.com) on this Sex FAQs episode to tackle the different real-life situations that could cause one's libido to do a disappearing act.

We answer the following questions:

  • "Sex is often over in seconds with my husband. But we ignored these issues because we were great friends. Now I just feel nothing towards him sexually. What should I do?"

 

  • "I enjoy masturbating regularly using porn. But when I masturbate too often, it makes me feel less sexually interested in my partner. Does masturbation help or hinder my sexual desire?"

 

  • "My girlfriend is on antidepressants and rarely in the mood for sex. It's beginning to take a toll on my confidence and libido. What can I do?"

 

  • "I had a baby 5 years ago, and had post-natal depression. Since then, my libido has never returned. I want to have more desire, but when it comes time for sex, I'll make any excuse to get out of it. Please help."

 

  • "My wife and I have been trying unsuccessfully to conceive for over 2 years. Over time, my interest in sex has declined and now occasionally, I struggle to perform. What can we do?"

 

Kristin and Sara provide practical tips around how to prioritise pleasure and eliminate the pressure around sex, in order to revive the libido. We also give people ideas around opening this difficult conversation with a partner in a compassionate, non-judgemental way.

Tune into this episode if you're looking to break out of a dry spell or want practical tips for these everyday situations. It will help you get your mojo back!

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Ever wondered what happens when you take the awkwardness out of talking about sex and replace it with genuine curiosity and a bit of humor? That’s the space Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense occupies each week. Hosted by sexologist and coach Sara Tang, these conversations feel more like insightful chats with a knowledgeable friend than a clinical lecture. The podcast moves freely across topics tied to health, culture, and our personal relationships, reflecting the many ways sexuality touches our lives. You’ll hear honest discussions that demystify desires, tackle societal taboos, and explore the practical aspects of intimacy, all with a refreshingly light touch. It’s not about prescribing one right way; it’s about creating a comfortable environment for exploration and self-discovery. Whether the subject is fitness, communication, or cultural norms, Sara’s approach normalizes asking questions we often keep to ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means joining a dialogue that prioritizes understanding over judgment, and playfulness over pressure. The result is a collection of episodes that genuinely aim to make conversations about sex-and the experiences themselves-feel more accessible and significantly less intimidating for everyone involved.
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