53. How to Enjoy Porn Ethically

53. How to Enjoy Porn Ethically

Author: Sara Tang, Sexologist & Coach November 24, 2022 Duration: 1:12:39

How can you enjoy porn ethically - with more of the pleasure and less of the guilt? 

 

Porn is commonly used to accompany masturbation. On this episode, Sara chats with erotic filmmaker Paulita Pappel (www.paulitapappel.com) on what constitutes "ethical porn" and how to consume it in a healthy and responsible way. 

As someone who has been both in front and behind the camera, Paulita shares her journey into erotic filmmaking and how she defines her role as a feminist in the industry.

 

She shares her personal motivations around starting Lustery, a shame-free space for people to share home-made videos of their love and lust with the world.

 

We also discuss the changing conversation around porn, which is becoming more nuanced and take some time to challenge some commonly held stereotypes.

 

We wrap up the conversation with some practical tips on being an ethical porn consumer and setting aside the performative mindset around sex.

 

Instead of porn being a topic fueled by stigma, this conversation with Paulita relooks at porn as a genre of entertainment and a way to understand our sexuality, when used responsibly.

 

So if you want to develop better porn habits or explore new fantasies, this episode will give you the tools to make the most informed choices in terms of what you consume. 

 

 

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Ever wondered what happens when you take the awkwardness out of talking about sex and replace it with genuine curiosity and a bit of humor? That’s the space Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense occupies each week. Hosted by sexologist and coach Sara Tang, these conversations feel more like insightful chats with a knowledgeable friend than a clinical lecture. The podcast moves freely across topics tied to health, culture, and our personal relationships, reflecting the many ways sexuality touches our lives. You’ll hear honest discussions that demystify desires, tackle societal taboos, and explore the practical aspects of intimacy, all with a refreshingly light touch. It’s not about prescribing one right way; it’s about creating a comfortable environment for exploration and self-discovery. Whether the subject is fitness, communication, or cultural norms, Sara’s approach normalizes asking questions we often keep to ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means joining a dialogue that prioritizes understanding over judgment, and playfulness over pressure. The result is a collection of episodes that genuinely aim to make conversations about sex-and the experiences themselves-feel more accessible and significantly less intimidating for everyone involved.
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