Ep 18: Pregnancy & The Permission to Be Loved

Ep 18: Pregnancy & The Permission to Be Loved

Author: Natalee Facey February 6, 2021 Duration: 32:32

How do you love and care for yourself when you're pregnant or think you might be pregnant? And how differently do you treat yourself or ask others to treat you when you're not pregnant? 

 

We've entered into the month dedicated to love and while romantic love is fab(!), our first episode looks at the differences in how we love ourselves (love as an action) and how we ask others to love us when we're pregnant vs. when we're not. And on a deeper level, how we might be holding love and care from ourselves when we're not in the "pregnant club." 

 

We're taught that we deserve love based on conditions—our ability to give something in return, ie. a baby. And so, when it's "just us," we either deprioritize our own care or may not feel that we have the same right to ask for what we need as we would if we were pregnant. 

 

In this episode, I share how pregnancy inherently gives a greater permission to be loved and cared for and the differences you may experience after a loss. I share examples from my own pregnancy journey and some that might have snuck into yours without your knowing.

 

The truth of the matter is that you are worthy of love—pregnant or not, TTC or not, ready to try again or not. And if you do nothing else this month, allow yourself to be loved just because you exist. 

 

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If you're looking to get to the next phase of your Birth Warrior Journey, here are ways that I can support you:

 

1. Join the private Birth Warrior Facebook Community with others on their healing journey. Whether you're seeking ways to bolster your healing, are on a pause, or are actively trying to conceive, the community allows you to be with other Birth Warriors on their journey, and get the support you need for your next step. I lead a weekly live (Birth Warrior Wednesday!) every Wednesday at 6PM ET and share resources so you can be the fearless warrior you're meant to be on this journey. Join us here: facebook.com/groups/birthwarriorcommunity 

 

2. Work 1:1 with me for your emotional healing or to gently guide you through a conception to childbirth plan for your next pregnancy. Pregnancy after loss or infertility is tough, and you do not have to feel overwhelmed or alone. You've been through enough, warrior! And you are so much stronger with the right support! Book a complimentary strategy call with me to help you get clarity for the next phase of your journey: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/20min 



Learn More

> Learn more about who I am and why I love to do this work at nataleefacey.com 



Say Hello

> On Instagram: @thebirthwarriors 

>Via Email: hello@nataleefacey.com 

>Inside the Birth Warrior Community: facebook.com/groups/birthwarriorcommunity 


Navigating the path toward another pregnancy after a loss or trauma is a deeply personal and often isolating experience. Preparing For Pregnancy After Loss offers a compassionate space for this unique journey, hosted by Natalee Facey. As a mother to two angel babies herself, as well as a Resilience Coach and Birth Doula, Natalee brings both professional insight and profound personal understanding to each conversation. This podcast gently addresses the complex layers-emotional, physical, and mental-that accompany family planning after experiences like infertility, traumatic birth, or infant loss. Episodes weave together practical guidance on health and fitness with essential discussions on inner healing and emotional resilience. You’ll hear honest dialogues, strategies for rebuilding hope, and reflections on transforming grief into a source of strength. It’s more than just an educational resource; it’s about finding a supportive voice that acknowledges the fear and courage that coexist when considering pregnancy again. Through this podcast, Natalee aims to foster a sense of community and grounded preparation, helping you reconnect with your own body and spirit on your own terms.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 68

Preparing For Pregnancy After Loss
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